I am 7 months pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. We live together and are both full time college students. A couple of days ago, I realized that I felt hostility towards him, but I am not sure where it is coming from. My sex drive as increased all throughout the pregnancy, but all of the sudden the idea of being anywhere near him seems to tick me off. I am trying to act normal, but when I do act in any way affectionate towards him I just feel fake and it upsets me a lot. Does anyone have any experience with anything like this? I am not sure what to do, and it is causing me stress to feel so hostile towards him.
2006-09-06 12:23:43 · 21 answers · asked by Megan F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I should mention, that although I have these feelings towards him now, this is a new thing and is not stemming from anything he has done. We are both mature and responsible adults. We plan on staying together and raising our son together. So any snap judgements made about my ability to parent, or his, can be kept to yourselves.
2006-09-06 12:33:15 · update #1
Honey, relax...it's just the hormones.
I'm normally the most laid back person ever and I've never had any rage issues or anything like that...I'm at 34 weeks and I cant go to the grocery store down the street without flipping off half the drivers on the road...in the last two weeks...I have developed the most venomous case of road rage ever. I also went through a stage right around seven and a half almost eight months where everything my husband said was stupid and annoying and I just wanted to smack him ...all the time.
This too shall pass... Don't stress on it...and maybe you want to fill him in on this little symptom of pregnancy in one of your saner moments ...just so he doesn't take it personally...
My husband had a hard time at first ..but I plopped about 8 pregnancy books in his lap one day and told him..."for your own good...read up"...He did, two weeks or so passed and all of the sudden he didn't seem like such an idiot...so I don't know if my phase passed...or if he learned in the books how to handle me better...all I know is that I don't want to kill him anymore...lol
You're alright...It will get better ....And it will help if he knows "where you're at" emotionally. Hang in there....you're almost done. Good Luck :)
2006-09-06 12:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ladies are going through a lot of changes. I don't know why pregnant ladies display strange behaviors, it could be hormonal imbalance or stress and anxiety from worrying about the fetus. Who knows. You are to be commended for enduring what you have to go through. Hopefully these hostile feelings will go away after you give birth...I don't know. Perhaps there's something else in your lives that are the cause of these feelings. In that case you might consider seeking professional guidance from a counselor.
Although, I'd feel pretty hostile toward the person that put in the situation to have to endure a pregnancy. J/K!
Good luck and I hope you have a healthy baby.
2006-09-06 12:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by funwithfondu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, he's texting other girls in order to meet up for sex & he's trying to make it seem like it's your fault & that it was all a drunk thing? Hon? This sounds pretty premeditated to me. I'm thinking that this probably isn't the first time this has happened. And even if it was, this means that cheating is on his mind. You don't just get drunk & suddenly think "hey, I'm going to call an ex & get her to have sex with me". (And what makes you think that he didn't bang her?) Plus, why does he still have a current number for his ex? The fact that he doesn't understand how this would be cheating also sends out warning signs. Anyone with half a brain cell knows that sex texts is cheating. He's just trying to brainwash you into thinking that you are the bad guy & that you are overreacting so he can go out & do this again. (And again, and again.) This smells fishy to me. I would put my foot down & prepare to move in with a friend or family member. I'm predicting that this is going to become all too common... especially after the baby is born. If he is tempted to cheat NOW, then what will he be like after the baby is born & you are even more stressed & tired than you are now?
2016-03-27 00:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry. im 7 months pregnant too and all of a sudden i feel very hostile towards my bf to. i have done some really mean things to him even becoming violent. sometimes i hate everyone i come in contact with and sometimes i want to be around everyone and be all lovey dovey.dont worry about it my bf is very understanding and tries really hard to make me happy and from the way it sounds ur bf will do the samething.sometimes i even cry during sex its normal!
2006-09-06 14:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by Alyson C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your hormones honey. I realized that during all 3 of my pregnancies that guys in general bothered the crap out of me for no reason at all right around the 7th month. It is normal!
All i had to do was sit down and figure out if what i was being mad at was really worth it or was it just me. Like if he didnt put jelly on my toast- that wasnt a reason to be angry- but if he bounced a check then yeah- maybe then.
Pick your battles and get lots of sleep. Go for massages- they will help you to relax and get ready for the birth of your child. It seems like you already have a lot on your plate. Just hang low for the next few months and take care of yourself!
2006-09-06 12:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky- I couldnt even handle being around men in general the whole pregnancy!! I think its some kind of i dunno- caveman thing, like in nature after the female gets prego, they eat the male, or growl, or basically kick em out of the picture. (NOT that thats what you should do), I think its normal hormonal stuff. Oh and I know its weird, but I heard once that its a womans way of keeping the baby. Like in caveman days when the men only wanted sex, they would eventually make the girl miscarraige (by having more sex with them) so its your internal instinct.
2006-09-06 12:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, It is called a mood swing. Wait until labor comes...you think you feel hostile towards him now.
I am 37 weeks pregnant and all of a sudden I feel like I just want to tell my mother off. I am a grown woman and any little comment she makes...I just want to go off. It is a mood swing and I am sure it will pass. Eventually
2006-09-06 13:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just hormones. You are going to feel a lot of different emotions in the next couple of months, so prepare yourself. You will know the meaning of mood swings. It helped me to to let my hubby know how I was feeling, so he could work on whatever he was doing to make me feel hatrid toward him. I packed my stuff and loaded it into the car to leave him like 3 times in my third trimester. Don't stress about it. It is normal.
2006-09-06 12:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a hormone thing. When i was pregnant i got to a point i couldn't even stand for my boyfriend to touch me. And i was always mean to him. I feel bad now, but it was all hormones. You as well as him have to realize that you don't have that much control over it. It goes away after you have the baby. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-06 13:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by cavgirl3361 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions run all over the place during pregnancy. Don't be overly concerned about it. However, be honest and upfront with your boyfriend. Let him know you are having those feelings, but also let him know that it fairly normal and you should get over it. This could help deflect possible fights about it in the upcoming weeks.
2006-09-06 12:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋