I have bring very little money into the marriage, he has many times more. We are retired and live on our social security and income from investments he inherited. If all of his estate goes directly to his young adult kids, how do I live in our brand-new-very-little- money-down-home with a 30 year mortgage? Is this a typical second wife arrangement? I was ready to write my will with words like, all I have goes to my husband then my kids.
2006-09-06 12:21:58 · 8 answers · asked by allheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think the both of you should sit down and talk about it...... i really believe you deserve a % . clear the air and let him know your reasons and concerns.......
2006-09-06 12:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by mr handy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need a will. I think he should leave you something to live on. You are after all his WIFE! He can leave his kids stuff too, I am not saying get it all, but enough so that you can survive if he died. I am sure he would want you to be secure if something happened to him. Do the same for him, if he needs some of your money leave him some,if he is well enough off, then discuss it with him and leave it to your kids. (I am also in a 2nd marriage and this is what we did.)
2006-09-06 12:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by silver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say discuss it with him. Inform him of your concerns in the event of his untimely death. See how he responds. You have to be prepared to be unhappy in regards to his response. If he is not concerned for your dealing with life after him, then, I am sad to say, you should get out of the marriage now. No man worth his weight would leave nothing to his wife upon his death. I have children from a previous marriage, and everything goes to my wife. I know she will take care of everyone's needs as they arise. This is not a typical second wife arrangement. His personal effects that have no sentimental value to you, by all means, share with the children, but it should be yours as you are his spouse.
2006-09-06 12:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check with an attorney, for some states have some strange laws when it comes to step children and the like. You could find out to late that if he dies and no will his children get it all and you will have problems paying for the house. Hope it is in both your names. Even then they may get half of it. Time to check it out.
2006-09-06 12:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Taiping 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dies before you then you should get it all. after your death then it will be divided between the kids. afterall you are his other half
2006-09-06 12:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave everything to your kids and he leaves his for his.
talk about your morgage and mention that you cant pay it alone.
2006-09-06 12:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get the house, the kids get everthing else
2006-09-06 12:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by wickedfreakinawesome 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure, why not?
2006-09-06 12:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋