My husband thinks I"m crazy... He always wants to stay drunk and he's mean to me when he is.. So I just get drunk with him and then I take up for myself.... is there something wrong with that. ... I don't think he remembers what he does.. but he sure does remember what i say and do.. I"m just so confused.. what should i do??? I love him but you can't be with a drunk without being one yourself.. I need WISE advice... some one with experience
2006-09-06 11:58:31 · 12 answers · asked by amber22davis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yall, there is no children .. just one stepchild.. i am the stepmother
2006-09-06 12:26:12 · update #1
yall, there is no children .. just one stepchild.. i am the stepmother
2006-09-06 12:26:16 · update #2
Alcoholism is a problem that hurts not only the person who's doing the drinking, but everyone around them. If he doesn't acknowledge the problem and doesn't attempt to get help, you can either accept things as they are - or save yourself and get out. You can't MAKE him change if he doesn't want to. You can only change your own attitude.
2006-09-06 12:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a ton of experience with alcoholics so please listen to what I have to say.
You shouldn't be with someone who drinks and stoop to their level and drink as well. You're my mother in the scenario. My father has always been a heavy drinker and the past years his alcoholism has really been at its highest. My mother was threatening with divorce and trying to overcome his alcoholism (since he refuses to seek counseling) but finally after trying so hard she just gave into the pressure and is now an alcoholic herself.
Do not stay with this man! If the two of you have kids, your kids will end up like me— hurt, depressed, in counseling due to family trust issues. If you stay with him, you are allowing yourself to be degraded. If he doesn't want to get sober you shouldn't have to get drunk. Instead, do yourself a favor especially for the future and leave this alcoholic man.
2006-09-06 19:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need help seems if your tearing one another apart, by that I mean if order to stand up for yourself you have to been drunk to answer your husband. I think you both need some kind of counseling there. I think you need to get out of this abusive relationship.
2006-09-06 19:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an enabler. How can you believe that he doesn't remember what he does when drunk, but remembers everything you do. He is lying about that. Get out before you develop more problems. Is is a lose/lose situation.
2006-09-06 19:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a mean drunk for 8 yrs, I wised up and got a divorce....... Love isn't worth it
2006-09-06 19:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby is a drunk, get a new hubby who isnt a drunk. There is more to life than drinking
2006-09-06 19:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have went thru this myself... you drinking is just making the problem worse.. quit drinking and then ask him to go to counsiling if he is not willing to go... then you are the ONLY one working on it and it takes both... sorry to say one person can not keep a relationship going (i was the one trying and he was not)
2006-09-06 19:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzywishes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a good situation because one day something major will happen,you two need to seek counseling.
2006-09-06 19:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. he is the crazy one. i say you leave.
unless you have kids. if there are kids, take the kids and leave.
2006-09-06 19:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Surf n' Snow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit drinking it makes you do/say stupid things that u might regret someday and it can ruin relationships......be smart and sober up
2006-09-06 19:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋