My ex-girlfriend has been depressed for a while, to the point where she cuts herself and considers suicide. She's actually got a good life with plenty of friends and potential, but it doesn't seem to matter to her. No one could cheer her up no matter how hard they try. She always talks to me when all else fails and each time I come up with things that make her happy again everytime, but later she's back to her sad ways, as if she forgot everything I said. I'm not giving up on her though. I just need a way to make my wise words stick with her. Does anybody out there have any good ideas? By the way, she's an "Emo" girl; just in case that helps.
2006-09-06 11:54:38 · 21 answers · asked by theoriginalelwood 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Has she been in counselling? Cutiing is almost always a sign of something repressed that she needs proffessional help to let out.
Sure your doing your best but sounds like she needs a proffessional!
2006-09-06 11:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is she so sad about if things are going so well for her? Are her parents terrible to her? If so, she should find a new place to stay if possible.. Other than that, I don't see what could be so bad...
I think it's probably just a phase. I went through the same thing. I grew out of it in time, and now I'm genuinely happy with my life and who I am. She needs to realize how bright the future is for her. There are so many things she could do from here on if she puts her mind to it!
2006-09-06 11:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is fortunate to have you for a support system. However she needs professional help. This is more than you can take on on "cure" yourself. I have no idea how old she is. School counselors, parents, if an adult use insurance ex;employee assistance program. These programs are strictly confidential. Get the information from the Human Resources department
2006-09-06 12:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by Karen W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing...SHE NEEDS TO STOP LISTENING TO THAT "EMO" CRAP! That will help. Second, she should take a month vacation at a mental institution, where they can explain things to her professionally. That is their job you know. This is all a bit much for someone like you to need to deal with. She is on a cycle that has a downward spiral. Sure she's ok when you talk, then she's back at it later. Give her and yourself some respect, and let a perfessional handle this job, cuz it is a tough one. I had to spend 6 months on medication for bi-polar, and was in the loony-bin for the whole time. I hated it at first...now I can function on my own, and keep my life in order. Think about it. Cuz there is no quick fix for this, trust me, I know first hand.
2006-09-06 12:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a loaded weapon - you are her confidante and are putting yourself in a precarious position. She's obviously got problems with depression, unless it's just a show, but it seems to me like she's got you on a short leash, even though she's not your girlfriend anymore.
I'm not saying don't care about her - I'm just saying be careful - it's not your job to cheer her up. Get another girlfriend and see what happens.
FP
2006-09-06 11:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your friend is to tell her parents, and definately get her help. However, it seems that every time you try to cheer her up, she gets off on the attention. Maybe she is just doing it for your benefit??? Either way, she needs help.
2006-09-06 12:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little sister is going through exactly what you are talking about. To be honest it has to be on her and her family. It took my family like 4 months to realize what was happening and I came home from college and pointed it out. It took a lot of counseling, discipline, and love.
2006-09-06 11:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Surfer guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm... I'm a emo girl too. So let me think...
Maybe if u encourage her by notes. Leave her some note writting somethig encouraging, and end the notes something like... "look under the vase" or.."go to...(the place where's the next note)." u got the point... oh...and a flower at the end... ^_^
2006-09-06 12:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by Yuna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unless you are a trained therapist, you really can't help her. people who are depressed don't need a reason to be sad.
and because you think she "acts" better after you've talked to her, i'd bet she still wants to be with you.
poop jokes always work on me.
2006-09-06 11:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by buffysummers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop allowing whatver is bothering her ruin her life, and tell her to stop being an emo, because allt aht brings is self-destruct.
2006-09-06 11:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋