I Hate Middle School!?

Question

I go to 8th grade. I am constantally being teased and accused of being gay... ALL THE TIME. My hair style is a fo-hawk; which is much like a mowhawk, but not too extreme. I also hate to wear jock or 'plain' cloths, I like to be stylish. People say I am metro-sexual, but mostly everyone dosn't know what that means. Oh and it SURELY dosn't help of me being overweight either. In science I was harrasted like this.

"Why do you wear a mohawk?"
"Beacuse I like it, why? - oh and by the way, its a fo-hawk."
"What? A Gay-Hawk?"
"No, A fo-hawk."
"Oh a Gay-Hawk, alright, ******."
"I am not gay, I am more metro-sexual, but not totally."

(the boy raises his hand and the teacher asks "What?")

"John just said he is metro-sexual, I am kind of scared!"

(he didn't know what metro sexual ment, but he thought it ment gay.)

(the teacher said she didn't know what it ment and some other kid blurted out

(continued next)

"It means when somone acts and looks gay, but isn't really gay.")

Then the WHOLE class said "Oh THAT explains John, I was wondering!"

then the conversation ended and I just ignored everyone in embaressment.

Somone PLEASE tell me what I can do to not get teased.

Sace your time and don't say "Just Ignore It" beacuse THAT DOSE NOT WORK! I even told the teacher but that dosn't seem to help either!

I NEED ADVICE!

I noticed some of you are saying "You are too into your looks"

I just want to say I was never like this, after getting constantally teased, I just got more focused on my looks. I don't know what to do. Im trapped!

Answer 1

The new way of todays culture is to discriminate against men in every way possible. In the past, it was discriminate against women, or blacks. Now, today, anything a guy does can be considered gay. Guys call other guys gay mostly as a way to call you less than a man, or stupid, a lemming, not right, etc, it's isn't always about people thinking you actually like gay sex and are attracted to men.

Notice that females can look, sound, and act any way they want and are respected for it. But a guy can't. Anything a guy does thats not considered the traditional male behavior or traditional appearance, is considered weak, stupid, gay, meterosexual, etc.

If you have long hair, your gay. If you like music other than rap or rock, your gay. If you don't have the basic hair style of the times, your gay. If you don't wear a jersy or the basic white shirt and blue jeans, your gay, if your an artist, your gay, the list goes on. And even some girls who claim they're for womens rights and hate all forms of discrinimation, some of them discrinimate against guys and call them gay as well for the same reasons.

And if you get irritated for being called gay, people then call you a homophobe or say your really gay for letting it bother you, so theirs no escape, everything you do as a man is wrong in todays times. Not to mention, if you complain about anything, no matter how sincere, your considered a whiner because only women are aloud to speak up for themselves in todays times.

You are a victim of the new discrinimation. But be strong, be yourself, and don't become someone you are not because of what people say.

Personal experience: I had to deal with the same crap, and seen other guys go through it as well. I still see people dealing with this. I stayed as who I am, gained confidence, and now I'm stronger because of it, even married the best woman I've ever met. So stay strong. Stay focused, and Forget the haters. Most of them grow up to be complete failures anyways.

Answer 2

Middle school was not my favorite either. It's a tough time period... not exactly a little kid anymore, but not quite a teenager. I got harrassed (verbally, emotionally, & later on physically) on a daily basis during elementary & middle school (for stupid stuff, btw) and like you said that whole "just ignore it" advice that adults give you doesn't work and actually can just make you feel worse.

Things will eventually improve, just have to ride it out, no matter how much it sux. If you want the harrassment to stop, the solution is simple - change who you are. I don't recommend doing this though. It's a lot tougher to just stay true to yourself... and in the long run you'll be a stronger and more dynamic person for it!

For the record - I think the fo-hawk is awesome! Good luck, stay strong.

Answer 3

Well, this might not sound like it will help, but first off, trying to define the difference between mohawk and fohawk all the time really feeds the teasing fire. Not everyone is going to know ( I certinly didnt), and but expanding on the thing that seperates you from others, you open yourself up to teasing. Accept that most people will consider it a mohawk, and dont worry about it. Just say you wear your hair the way you want to.

Also, defining yourself as a metrosexual works the same way. Using a less slang term would cut down on the openings for embarrassment. I think saying style conscious would really help. If you just explain that you take pride in your appearance, that natrually leads people's minds down a less sexually-oreinted path than using pharses like metrosexual.

My personal experience is that if you try and explain too much, people get scared. Keep in general and nonspecific, thats all people require and all they are expecting. If they ask for more info after that, then they honeslty want to understand and wont tease you for your answers.

Answer 4

I hate to tell you this, but as long as you differ from the "norm", you will be teased, especially in middle and high school. Kids just don't understand what you are trying to convey for some reason. Or some kids are just jealous THEY don't have the guts to do something different from the "norm".
Maybe next time someone asks why you wear a mohawk, your answer should be "because I can" or " because I have the guts to" ( on that latter one, be careful, because some kids may want to beat the snot out of you.) Oh, and leave the "faux-hawk routine out- you're just asking for more trouble.

Answer 5

Don't listen to the first answer, be yourself. Go to the principle if a teacher won't listen (which they should) Maybe have your parents call the school and demand they do something about the harassment (make sure the principle knows the teachers wouldn't help you because thats BS right there) Alot of kids are so cruel, I'm sorry you are going through this.

Answer 6

Their behavior is immaturity, ignorance, and insensitivity. If the problems escalate to the point where you are distracted from your work, you may have to arrange a conference with the principal. It sounds like a difficult time, but you will find your niche of friends and support. You sound like an intelligent person who has a strong sense of self.

Answer 7

Kill 'em with kindness and seek out the counsel of a trusted friend or adult (do you have a good guidance counselor?) Please believe me when I tell you -- EVERYONE hates junior high school. It's a very awkward phase of life for everyone -- some people "handle" it by finding other people to tease. Just remember -- people who seem to make a "living" out of teasing you and others have EXTREMELY LOW self esteem. The only way they have to feel better about themselves is to belittle someone else. More than anything, they are probably jealous that YOU are confident and comfortable with what you like to wear and how you like your hair, etc. Just smile and say "thank you for noticing." Bullies run out of things to bully about if you don't let them bully you. This isn't about ignoring them - it's about responding to them with kindness and confidence. You can do it!!!

Answer 8

sorry mate its part of life and ignoring it is the best thing u can do when i was at school i was constantly build and teased but in the long run i gained respect coz i new who i was and i treated people the way i wish to be treated it has made me a better person in the long run just stick to ur guns and be happy with ur self.

Answer 9

In 8th grade you shouldn't even know what metrosexual means! You are WAY too into your looks and stuff. You don't have to blend in with everyone, but you really need to tone it down. You are making yourself a target. Ditch the hairdo, too.

Answer 10

At your age you can't act or talk like that, kids will eat you up and spit you out. You have to figure out how to be yourself yet fit in. Maybe home schooling is the answer for you. Good luck.