i have 4 friends that i think are backstabbing me i dont know but i feel they talk about me behind my back ive tried talkin to them but that hasnt worked as we all nearly fell out is there any other way i can find out whats being said?? please help me
2006-09-06 11:38:31 · 17 answers · asked by cookeymonsteruk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know its them talkin bout me because they have gone quiet when i go near them they dont keep in contact anymore and its all because of one person who i have fallen out with but the rest of my friends havent. u see they go to her house on a sat night and drink whereas i am now confined to my house to drink with my sis and everytime they go over there something is being said as wen i try to ask them they just say nothing has been said and that im being paranoid which im not cause another friend told me that this person has been talking bout me but shes passing bad vibes to my other friends who i do love and dont want to fall out with!! sorry for taking up ur time but i really love the answers!! xoxo
2006-09-06 12:07:24 · update #1
They're not real friends if they are. If you show them that their bitching does not affect you, and you don't b1tch about them, chances are they'll stop doing it. If not, tell them to grow up, and get yourself some new friends that know the meaning of the word.
2006-09-06 11:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by pompeii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are from a place were rumurs are around in like 10 minutes, why not just start with that. You can just ask people that you don't normally talk to and ask them if they heard or know anything about your problem. If your friends are really popular, why not ask some of the guys that they hand out with beccause I know how girls get around guys that they like, they want the attention all on them and so they talk about anything. I hope I helped you out. Good luck with your friends.
2006-09-06 11:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by goof ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls can be really nasty and i think they pick a victim and talk about them for a while.
if they don't get a reaction they will move on to someone else until they do.
do you really need to know what they are saying? it will only hurt your feelings. the only thing you can do is take responsibility for yourself and make sure you don't join in when it's someone Else's turn to be slagged off.
you can choose your friends, are these girls really deserving of your friendship? i know how hard it is to try and fit in at school. ignore these rumours, they may not even be true, take each day as it comes and I'm sure it'll pass.
hope you feel better soon, remember your worth 10 of those nasty people x
2006-09-06 11:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by tuppassister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I had alot of this in high school and even into college. The way I dealt with it was pretended not to care. I acted as though I was oblivous and it worked well for me I was popular and people knew me and that is why they talked about me, so I just consider it to be flatering
2006-09-06 11:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Surfer guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront them on it full out. If they can say it behind your back they should be able to say it to your face. And friends aren't very good ones if they are backstabbing you all the time. Just ask them.
2006-09-06 11:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by maeghan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable her be who she ought to be... merely cus you tell her now to not fool round with a ton of boys does no longer advise she is going to quit.... she wont quit until eventually she makes a call to develop up. she is performing very immature. if she receives a desiease or finally ends up pregnant then thats her personal fault no longer yours. yet i imagine your precise. plus any guy that would sleep with a lady that receives round is merely as undesirable more beneficial than probable he's not the guy for you. come across a clean buddy and a clean guy. strong success.
2016-10-15 23:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by venturino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's mean! Firstly they are not your friends if they are doing this, are you sure you have it right? and secondly....do I actually have a secondly??? um......yeah, If you find out that they have been then leave them all and make some lovely, wonderful friend that you trust!!! XX
2006-09-06 11:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Emma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get new friends real friends dont stab you in the back
2006-09-06 11:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Robin SK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had tha exact same problem as u do hun! One girl who I fell out wiv had been doing alot of stirrin behind my back and was tellin my other close friends that I had been sayin nasty things behind their back~which of course was rubbish~but I knew nothin about it at 1st and my mates believed wot she sed and then turned their backs on me! So.. wondering why tha hell all of my mates had shunned me,I asked each one of them 2 come round one night~wiv each one of them not knowin it wuld b all of us meetin! So they turned up~shocked 2 see all tha other girls~and I jus came out wiv wot had been sed 2 me and it actually turned out it was this one girl who I fell out wiv in tha 1st place causing all tha trouble! None of my mates wanted 2 fall out wiv me or stop seein me but this girl had turned them all against me by tellin them I had been slaggin them off behind their backs! Needless 2 say I got my friends back once tha truth had come out and we never bothered wiv tha girl again! My advice 2 u hun wuld b 2 do tha same thing I did.. its tha only way ur gonna find out tha truth! Best of luck x
2006-09-07 00:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by charlie_baby1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think they are? If it's true they are not freinds and you should cool it here and make other freinds. If your fears are unfounded , build bridges and you won't fall out with them
2006-09-06 11:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by selchie_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋