can u be friends with someone better than you?

Question

i don't mean "better" as it first comes to mind,i mean your best friend is someone who's more succesful than you are, and it's always pushed you to be better and get the best out of yourself. but after awhile you realize that ppl don't get equal chances in life.
do u think that this could affect your relationship? and if so does it mean that u think ppl should only hang out with those similar to them? won't that define you to a small group of people????

Answer 1

It depends on how you react to one another

Answer 2

No. People who have friends like that should be greatful, they have someone who will push them to be positive and do the best you can. as for not getting equal chances in life, thats not true. They just come at different times and in different ways. Some have to work harder to get where others are, but we all have a chance, we just have to find it! Also, the success of a person is not what defines who your friends are, if they are good people and you get along with them etc, they are your friend no matter what.

Answer 3

Success is a subjective thing - people are motivated to do different things, and motivated by different things. For some, having a loving family is really important, and would be their measure of success, for someone else it'll be earning money and progressing their career.

Competition, in whichever sense, spurs us on to achieve things, whether we like to think we are competitive or not.

People may not get equal chances, but not all chances are presented on a plate. Certain circumstances may only arise because a particular action was carried out. Some chances may never arise if you don't put yourself in a position for it to happen.

If the difference in 'successes' is important to each of you, it is likely to affect your relationship. But that's up to you and your friend.

You should hang out with those that you care about, that care about you, and who make you happy. It doesn't matter how similar or different you are. Familiarity is good, as it gives some common ground, but not being the same as people is also good.

Differences are interesting, and it's human nature to be nosey (that's what i tell myself, anyway!), so not having everything in common doesn't have to be a bad thing.

Talk to your friend, they may have some advice for you that you weren't expecting. Things could change... It's up to you!

Answer 4

If you have come to a point in life where you believe ppl dont get equal chances or you believe you have reached your zenith of potnetial (hopefully you never reach this point, there is always room for growth whether lateral or progressive), u should be able to be content with yourself and your accomplishments always knowing you do your best. As long as you are content with that... the green eyed monster should not be a factor in true friendship... be happy for your friend and always strive for your personal best!!!!!!

Lifestyles can drift people apart.. but true love will keep them together even if just in the heart!!

Answer 5

me and my best m8, went to college together and were really close (practically lived together) whilst in college we were both on even ground because financially we were the same.
3years on, i decided on having a family, she had a career, she married a man earning LOADS OF MONEY, and her group of friends differed, for a while i felt that i wasnt good enough as her new friends were all rich, with fancy cars and good jobs, while ive put my career on hold to have a family.
But now i realise that she is the same person with money.
i dont think it should matter about social groups- although sometimes its hard not to (once i went out to lunch with her and 3 friends and they spoent more than i do on a weeks shopping)
Try to not let it get in the way, theyre the same person at the end of the day, unless they let themselves be manipulated by socially 'better' people.
it is fair to say though that some people definately do get dealt a better hand in life, but youve got to accept it and make the best of it.
Don't define your friends by thier success, and they wont define you by what you see as your weaknesses.

Answer 6

there is a drawback to having only a very small group of friends. It is death. When one of your key person's die, they take a huge chunk of your support system into the grave. If you are lucky you may be able to find two or three people combined to fill that vacuum, but then, it's never going to be the same, and you are dealing with a large group of people, which takes a lot of energy.

Everyone is "better than you" in one way or another.

Answer 7

Depends on what you want.

A smarter friend can be good to look up to, or show you the way so to speak. A pretty friend can bring more attention to you both as a group.

The best thing to be is opposite enough. Let's say she is smart, so you need to be prettier. If she is pretty, than be the smart one.

It will keep the competition and jealousy down a bit if you both have different yet compariable strenghts (bron vs brain) so to speak.

Answer 8

I think first and foremost you must be comfortable in your own skin and know that you are worthy of anything anyone else could attain. And sometimes its been proven that having succesful, stable people around you make you attain a higher ground for yourself. It certainly can keep you accountable for some of your bad habits as well.
but please do not go into any relation with someone you deem better than
yourself- Just know some people are better than others in one thing -while you are better in another.
when I knew people in a group that has lower standards for their lives - I did not feel as I should aspire for a better life..but knowing in the back of my mine I was better than a life to just settle for- I picked myself up and went on my path -convinced I could find better morals in people and I did!

know you alone live your life and not any amount of social class can guarrantee happiness- you alone must find it within yourself.

Answer 9

Well, it depends on how your friend is about it. It sounds like your friend is really helpful and supportive of you. I have a friend who's gone to nursing school, and our relationship has suffered because she takes such a condescending, belittling tone when she tells me about my decisions, or this or that, assuming that I was being stupid, when really it's due to outside circumstances. People really don't get the same chances. Then again I have a friend who's well-educated, has travelled, is a wonderful person, has always given me great advice, and is the kindest, warmest man I know. It depends. Good luck.

Answer 10

Yes, I can. Cause of them, I know where I stand while I seek to improve myself.

People who can't live with being a lesser achiever are usually egocentric or are insecure.
People who have very low self esteem should not mix with the highflyers. It could be bad for their mental psyche if they can't deal with it.
But it also depends on what kind of 'friend' you are dealing with. Do they make you better or worse?

Answer 11

Everyone has different chances and opportunities in life. Life is diverse and unfair. What matters is what people DO with the chances that they are given.

It would be a shame if we only associated with those we considered to be "on our level", I always cultivate friendships with those who challenge and encourage me to do my best.

The only problem I could see is if someone was really insecure about their "position" on the social ladder, they might be uber-sensitive, resentful, and immature about the whole thing.