A few days ago my boyfriend asked me if when he comes down in 3 years I'll be 15 and he will be 16, is this a good idea or not? I just turned 12 on the 28th of August, and he turned 13 on may 26th and I don't know if i should, i need answers, give them please.
2006-09-06 10:56:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well this is sweet, its nice that you have a boyfriend who is willing to talk about this , but sweety its not legal for u to get married without parental consent until your 18 in most states and some is 16...maybe in 3 years u will have found another guy or something.....i got married pretty early at 19 and its been hard sometimes its alot of sacrifice u cant buy the new clothes u want sometimes, u cant go out with friends, u have to cook and clean, etc. THe point is its great if u guys are still together in 3 years and thats when u should talk about it again.... :)
2006-09-06 12:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you are both far too young to be even thinking about marriage let alone doing it . At your ages you should be out having fun with friends not tied down with someone. You are both so young you have no idea the problems you will face. You may think you know what you are doing but believe me it's not as easy as you think. Why dont you give yourselves a few more years to think about it after all if it is meant to be it is not like you two are going anywhere is it ? Please take my advice as there are far too many divorces now you two dont want to be another one do you. And also what about having a family ? You would be children having children. I am not saying that you two are not mature l dont know you but please just weigh up all the pro's and con's before you do anything that could ruin the rest of your young lives. Think about it PLEASE . If it is meant to be you will wait for each other. Good Luck with your decision.
2006-09-06 18:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't answer a question that you will be asked three years from now. Besides, getting married is a huge commitment. Talk to your parents so that they could give you enlightenment about the REALITIES of marriage. You are so young and not even independent at this age. There's so much more you need to learn in life before you should even entertain yourself with these type of questions.
2006-09-06 18:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age, I thought I was going to marry every single guy I had a crush on. You're young, and it's normal to feel that way. But don't act on it. And whatever you do- don't have sex with this guy!!! Save it for your husband- that's the best wedding gift you could ever give someone (your virginity). I'm 21 and still feel like I'm too young to be married!
2006-09-06 18:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by The New Mrs. Nguyen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love aint related to age so honestly i think u should wait and see how things grow between u 2 and if in 3 yrs u become even closer and stronger together then i think ur both meant to be so yeps u should get married after that.... needs effort but only the days will help ya make that decision
2006-09-06 18:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by dr.eddie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, wait until you are both a little older. Marriage is for the rest of your life. Enjoy being a kid while you can.
2006-09-06 18:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At your age, you cannot make commitments that far into the future. Treat it as a joke and say you'll see when the time comes. Don't make promises you cannot keep.
2006-09-06 17:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
chances are it'll never happen you are not even legal to marry til 18 and where are you going to live with this boy at 16?
2006-09-06 18:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are at least 18 and see if you are still in love!
2006-09-06 18:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're dating at 12?!
Relax and enjoy what little is left of your childhood.
best,
cez
2006-09-06 18:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by cezzium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋