I have been out since my girlfriend and i have been together, 2 yrs. my parents still haven't met her and my borther has only a couple times. my family really means a lot to me. andi am going crazy that they haven't met her. and on top of that, i teach preschool and i am scared that i will lose my job for being gay...i have once before so i haven't told a lot of people that i am dating a woman..what do i do?
2006-09-06 10:56:15 · 11 answers · asked by sweetasawhisper 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
look what you do in your own time should not matter to you job. You are a lesbian not a child molester so why would you lose you job that is not right.....I think it is time for you to have you hole family meet this girl if she is someone that you really love I mean come on it has been 2 years and if you family means that much to you and so dose she....... But i also think you should ask her if she is ready to meet you hole family to......... Good Luck
2006-09-06 11:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by sxypiggy2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is probably about time you were out to your family. If they treated you harshly after coming out, at least you would know where they stand without berrating yourself all the time about how things might be different if you didn't come out. However, and this will sound a bit greedy, but if your parents are holding something over you like money and you're afraid they would withdraw it if you came out, then staying in the closet might be a practical solution for now until a better time presents itself.
I'm all for being out in the workplace, especially when it comes to being at ease with your co-workers. However, it may be inappropriate for your career to come out while teaching preschool. Chances are some of your kids' parents wouldn't appreciate it, as sad as it is. The aspect of coming out is always outweighed by the necessity of bread on the table, unless you are a completely altruistic person.
2006-09-06 18:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does your family feel about you being gay? Is that why they haven't met her yet? If you have been together for two years it seems that it is serious enough to find a way to get them together after all your family could be missing out on a really great person. I don't think you should be judged for any reason it's not like you bring your bedroom to work with you. People only think of one thing when they hear Gay or Lesbian (bedroom) it would be a sick world if that is all we thought about when we looked at someone, wouldn't it?
2006-09-07 17:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Misstee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite the family or parents over for a casual dinner/dessert. I'm sure your family will understand that you don't want the world to know about this, for job related reasons, and you just have to be honest with everyone about this.
In todays world, however, one never knows for positive sure, if you are just 'room - mates' or 'roommates', so don't be afraid to go out in public...just none of that kissy stuff and handholding, that just even makes other gays nauseous.
2006-09-06 18:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are in the old school. i am happy i have my mom. she met my nieces girlfriend and enjoyed her company. my mom is 70. people just have these crazy ideas that gay people are going to teach there children how to be gay. i would be more afraid of a child predator. i wouldn't tell anyone where you work. it is none of there business. i keep my home life to myself. i Will be happy when prejudice leaves this world.
2006-09-06 18:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by maxossa1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel this is an issue? Really, it is NOT! You need explain yourself to NO ONE. You are a good person, a kind person, and need say nothing of your personal life..don't! You do not ask your parents what they do in the bedroom, they do not need to know what you do. If you go to visit, take her with you..big deal. Introduce her as your friend. Your parents probably already know..you are making an issue of nothing. BUT, do NOT tell any friends, for in your position, you never can tell what will happen tomorrow... you do not need to furnish armaments to future enemies. Good luck and love in life.
2006-09-06 18:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why dive of the same cliff again. Keep it quiet or loose your job. Introduce her as a roommate to your parents, that is what my uncle did, even though every one knew. Your parents might confront you and you could tell them i live a very discrete life mom and dad.
2006-09-06 23:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could sue your former employer they had no right to fire you for being gay. I sure hope you don't live in one of those bible thumper states. If that's the case I'd move. You need to be who you are and not tucked away in a closet.
Tammi Dee
2006-09-06 18:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe some people's comments about it being inappropriate for you to be around kids since you're gay. What does that have to do with anything?
2006-09-06 20:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come out with the real you, I am not trying to promote gay people because my religion is againist it but, If your friends don't like it then they aren't your real friends, your family knows whats best for you.
2006-09-06 18:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kayley M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋