I'm shy and i don't see this as a negative thing. If it wasn't for other people. i,ve had people say to me "shy people unnerve me" is that really my proplem or "your to quiet if you was my daughter i'd be worried about you" and their feel like it's ok for them to say it to my face. No matter if it hurts my feelings. is it wrong to be shy.
2006-09-06 10:47:06 · 18 answers · asked by no1shylass 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i used to be really shy. people thought i was stuck up because i was just quiet. until they got to know me. once they got to know me, they all said," i really thought you were stuck up. you never said anything to anybody. i'm glad you came out of your shell."
there is nothing wrong with being shy. those people have the problem. some people are just introverted, thats all. dont let it get to you. you are the kind of person who choses carefully who you let in on your life. i dont find anything wrong with that.
2006-09-06 10:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been told the same thing - especially when I was younger. I can't help it - that's just the way I am. I prefer being quiet and shy then loud and obnoxious. Let them say whatever they want -if you feel comfortable enough - just ask them why is that a problem to them?! If you don't like them saying stuff to you like that - let them know - stand up for yourself. As I'm getting older it's not that bad - I am still shy though. Anyways girl.. just be yourself!
People would say that I was stuck-up and all that. That is not the case - Im just shy - but I smile and when people talk to me - I talk back. Some people think you have to be loud to be friendly. I am a really cool person once you get to know me - but a lot of people don't even give me that chance. Im sure you are the same way. Anyways girl.. just be yourself!
2006-09-06 10:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was shy a lot when I was younger, as I've gotten older, I've gotten less so .. but I still prefer smaller groups of friends to large crowds; don't like to speak in front of groups of people or an audience. Some of "us" are just like that and it's nothing to be embarrassed of. The reason the Type A's pick on shy people is because it gives them some sick ego boost. You will get picked on even worse if you openly act like it bothers you. What it boils down to is RUDE people ... and the best thing to do is "IGNORE" these types -- you don't owe anyone an explanation for being shy; It's better to be shy than to be a big mouth ;-)
2006-09-06 10:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by CactusFlower 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel it's okay it is not wrong to be shy, I mean that's the way you are right? They can't change that, and a shy person can't go from being shy to outgoing in like a second, and plus shy people like us are comfortable with some and not with the other, we can be shy here but outgoing there. You know? And being shy is better i think then being abnoxious. My first boyfriend in high school broke up with me because he said i was too shy around his friends, I was soooo devestated he should have gave me a little time to warm up to them. But anywho its ok girl don't worry to much about it. I mean If you are shy to a point where you are so boring and no one wants to talk to you maybe you should think about doing something about it, but if you are the shy that everyone has in them, then forget what others say about you.
2006-09-06 10:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by cremedelacreme 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because shyness is a property of a social dysfunction brought on usually by parents that didn't raise there kids to be successful adults. Not that they would be bad parents, I have social anxiety and am too shy, I hate it and I cant get over it. I'm even considering getting therapy for it. My parents loved me but had a hard time raising all the kids. They never pushed for us to do things on our own, or when we got in fights they never wanted to hear my point of view. Being a little shy is OK, its better than being a big mouth attention grabber.
2006-09-06 11:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Agnostic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of extroverts think that attitude is what life is all about. But they are very wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy. It just happens that some people (some extroverts, in this case) think of themselves as the model for perfection and when they judge other people based on this notion, it's easy to think shy people have the wrong attitude to life.
They're wrong!
By the way, as you can see from the answers, being shy is not a problem for many people. People are different and just as it's difficult for extroverts to live with shy people, so is the opposite.
Remember, never punish yourself for being yourself. It's good to gain more confidence in life, but you should never feel sorry for yourself because of what you feel.
Take care!
2006-09-06 11:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a big fan of shy people because, in my experience, they never want to do anything where "someone might see them". Like dancing or clubbing. And they don't talk much so I never really get to know them. Or it takes months for them to open up, which sometimes is ok and other times it is just frustrating. I mean, what is the worst that can happen? Someone laughs at you? So? Who are they to have any control over your life? I have asked someone out and they laughed. Yeah it hurt, but I quickly realized that was an idiot who I wouldn't have wanted to date anyways, lots of fish in the sea and all. But I am rambling, so those are my thoughts. They aren't meant to be offensive, so I hope you're not.
2006-09-06 11:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sterling 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong at all. I am an introvert myself and unfortunately the majority of the population is extroverts.
You'll get the comments, "she thinks she's better than everyone" to "she has no personality'. Some take our quietness very personal. We're not bothering anyone just leave us alone. The comment by txcowgirl was right on. Just be yourself, it's who you are. We might be quiet but we observe everything while others are running their mouth!
2006-09-06 11:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Aidge 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand! I was painfully shy growing up and people use to treat me like i had a mental illness. I tried everything to get past my shyness, and it was not until i joined the army then i gained a lot of confidence and now no one dare get in my way.
(I am not advocating joining the armed forces as a cure) I also tried taking classes on how to be assertive.
2006-09-06 10:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be shy. If you're ever told anything about being too quiet or whatever, just tell them that you don't like them, that's why you don't talk to them. Or say, "I'd rather be shy than rude, @sshole!". It worked for me back in the day.
2006-09-06 10:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by morningstar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋