My husband wants to watch me having sex w/another man,while I pleasure my husband.?

Question

I am not totally opposed to it. It is a fantasy fo mine. BUT what about afterwards?? And I coudl NEVER watch my husband be with another woman.Is this just a ploy for him to be able to sleep with another woman? Can our marriage survive it? How do we go about doing it? How do you ask someone to do that w/ you? Why watch me? What if the other man is not attracted to me? What if I love it? Am I going to want other men? My husband made the comment that he thinks I want other men. Is he jsut insecure and thinking that he is beating me to the punch, by suggesting it? BTW I do not desire other men.

Answer 1

You have pretty much answered your own question by asking so many questions. No one can tell you what it will do to your marriage, to you or to your husband. The question you should ask yourself is .. is it really worth the risk of destroying your relationship. Do you have children? If so, what would you do if they found out you had done this? Would you be able to tell them the truth? In my opinion, sleeping with anyone else when you are married, regardless of why, is never a good idea. So unless you have the ability to tell everyone you know what you did, then I would not recommend doing it.

Answer 2

I think he's got some unreasonable expectations, I mean fair enough if he wants sex you can just lay down and let him do it if you're not fantastically in the mood, but demanding that you put on an entire performance for him every night is unfair. Try turning the tables on him, tell him yes he can have his at-home pornstar if he takes care of the house so you can glam up properly. He can't expect you to do the lion's share of the housework (which includes cooking, and washing up afterwards) and not be exhausted at the end of it. Maybe if he takes over for a week or so he'll be more tired come bed time and won't be so demanding!

Answer 3

If it's your fantasy and he is willing, then go for it. If he wants to bring another woman into your bed, then tell him you also want another man to do you.
I did a threesome on an 18yo girl on her birthday, we all started together, and with in 10 minutes, he was just watching, he got po'd because he couldn't make her orgasm.
She called me for a year or so after that wanting more, WITHOUT him. I traveled a lot and she worked at the hotel where I stayed. We had a lot of orgasmic evenings and days together without him. I don't think he ever found out. It's a risk, but if you're both willing to take it then go for it. Good luck.
I'll be glad to be the other guy. Making fantasies come true is something I really enjoy.

Answer 4

Sounds like divorce is in your future.Why did you 2 get married? You could have stayed single and fooled around.If your husband suggested this and then put it like you wanted it then there's a rat in there somewhere.Your husband may be a voyeur.If so then you can bet that this will be your life from now on.Have you HEARD of ADULTERY? Man there are so messed up people in this world.

Answer 5

How could you refuse to allow hubby to play, if you already played? It may be that he wants other women, and by getting you to sleep with another guy, he'd be able to sleep with other women. Or, he has bi fantacies. I strongly recomend that you forget the whole idea. Marriage isn't easy, without complicating things by tossing in extra people. Even if your marriage survived, it could never be the same. Fantacies are fun, but often reality isn't all that great. Tell hubby you'll think about it, but you want to be sure it's what he truly wants, so he should ask again in twenty years.

Answer 6

So which is it? YOu say you're not totally opposed to ti, but you say you do not desire other men. Make up your mind. If you don't want to do it, DON'T DO IT!!! Only an azzhole husband would get mad at his wife because she won't bang another guy. If you're curious and want to find out, there are swingers groups all over the place that welcome beginners. if it's not for you, you'll know it within a few minutes and you can leave.

But you only do what you want to do. Is that so hard to figure out?

Answer 7

We have done threesomes both ways extra man and extra woman. The extra woman was not as much fun as you would think, even he did not enjoy it that much, I am just not into women and I think it showed. I hated seeing him with the other woman.

The MFM threesome was enjoyable for both of us, he enjoyed the voyeur part I suppose and I was in heaven.

I do not know if I would recommend it for everyone though, we have a very strong marriage, we discussed it at length before doing it. We also had people that we were close to that we could include without threatening our relationship.

We are going to do it again, we are going to take a weeks vacation and have fun the entire week.

Answer 8

Sounds like a ploy of some kind on his end... personally, I would never do it. Could be the type of ploy you mentioned, or possibly a ploy in anticipation for a divorce, to give him "proof" and "ammunition"?

Or perhaps he's already got someone on the side?

Sounds like you have too many questions to be confident and secure... don't let him push you into it.

Answer 9

My honest answer: you husband have problems,something is really wrong with him.Get professional help.If he is enough for you,and satisfy you enough,he does need help.The fantasy is a bad excuse to satisfy himself.Do not do it.Tell him: I am sorry, I can not; and I do not want to do it.If you do,for sure the marriage is over.Remember that.This happen to many marriages.After that,the marriage never is a good marriage again.Good luck.Say no,if you want to save your marriage.

Answer 10

if it's something that you're not opposed to doing communicate w/your husband that you have questions about doing this. and that you're not comfortable w/some of the things he's asking you to do. try to come to an agreement.