My BF, my mom , my friends. What ever I do is not good enough. It hurts so bad. Never pretty enough,fast enought,not enough money. Never good enough.
2006-09-06 10:27:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear I'm #1,
I'm sorry to hear of your of your problem. May I suggest something to you? Let me first say that as long as you live you will not please everyone! There used to be a saying, "You can please some of the people all the time, and all the people some of the time, but you will never please all the people all the time." I do not know who said this or where it came from, but there is a bit of truth in it. Look at a governement representative......He may do something very good and the people applaud him. The next week he makes an error and everyone is ready to hang him!
I try to do everything for the Lord (Jesus Christ). I do not know you background but Jesus is God. What ever I do, I try to do it for God's glory. He is the One I have to answer to. He is my strength and my shield. He is my refuge. When I have trouble, I bring it to Him because He knows everything. When I do something that gets positive remarks, I say, "Thanks be to God." I give the Lord the applause and glory because He is the Greatest! When I get reprimanded, I go to the Lord and tell the Lord that I am so sorry to have dishonoured Him. I love to read 1 and 2 Samuel in the Bible because I see how David acted in different situations (He was greatly loved of God). And I try to follow the principles set forth in the Bible. Then I know, no matter what, I am pleasing the Lord. "And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free."
2006-09-06 10:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself...that's all you need. Tell all of them once, individually, how you feel about their constant criticisms and if they cannot offer any help to just let you be. Let them know that you do not need for them all to constantly put their foot on your neck. You need their support...not to be condemned by them. Isn't that suppose to be the role of love ones?
You will still need your parents but if your bf does not get the picture you can step away from his abuse.
Always continue to try and make yourself a better person regardless of what. Walk with your head high and always carry your dignity.
Here is my personal quote I would like to share with you. "Whenever things are not going your way, use it as an opportunity to show how much class you have.
2006-09-06 10:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i know how you feel all in this past year my husband left me, all my friends went with. Im living with my mom who tells all her friends im a horrible mother and a job where I am put down all the time. It is a sob story and 1/2 but the only thing that you can do is tell yourself that you are worth it and good enough. It is hard to go on day to day but telling myself i am worth something and my kids is the only thing that makes me get up everyday. One day you will find someone that you will be perfect for just the way you are. Keep your head up girl.
2006-09-06 10:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if their expectations are realistic. As far as being "pretty enough", there's not much you can do about it, and it isn't that important anyway.
Find something to be good at, especially school/work that will help you support yourself.
Get new friends and a new boyfriend. Ask your mom for help improving whatever it is she doesn't like.
2006-09-06 10:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop caring about what other people want from you. Make sure you do things good enough for yourself. That's all that really matters. Some people, without even knowing it, will just keep taking and taking, and expecting more and more. So no matter what you do, it's not good enough for THEM. Stop worrying about THEM.
2006-09-06 10:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey... Slow Down! I know your feelings hurt when someone crushes your esteem and makes you feel like your'e a failure at everything you do. Love who are and be proud of it. Family members just want you to excel more. Believe in yourself, Know that you are somebody and God didn't make no junk! You may not be good or better looking as someone else... but your'e beautiful in the eyes of God! Just keep this in mind... and you'll make it. God Bless You Always, God's Angel
2006-09-06 10:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The others are right: you have to try your own personal best, but to try to just satisfy others all the time is self-defeating behavior. It really wears on your self-esteem, and is totally unnecessary. If you go into something and know you've tried your personal best, then whatever anyone else says doesn't matter - it's what you think inside that counts.
2006-09-06 10:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Allyson26 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have to stop undermining yourself coz if you keep on pointing to your weaknesses or the things that you dont have you cant achieve what you want.. and everything is a process you can work hard for everything that you want, there's always tomorrow and you'll never know what's on there if you're always looking to what you dont have.. be positive and think positive.. and you should stop impressing people, do things for yourself, things that you really want want, something that will make you happy and that will make you feel fulfilled! you cant impress everybody, that's a fact! they will always point out your mistakes but life doesnt stop there, you're the one in control of your life take hold of it.. dont let others dictate you to what you have to do! stand for yourself! and stop self-pitying it wont do any good to you in fact it will make you feel worst! you're someone special, someone great dont limit yourself! you can do a lot of things..
2006-09-06 10:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by keiCh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What anyone else thinks doesn't matter. As long as you do the best that you can, and respect yourself and the things that you do in life, then that is enough.
2006-09-06 10:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because their expectations are impossible to meet. You try so hard and they don't accept it. You should talk to them about it. If your friends and Bfs are like this,they aren't good enough for you.
2006-09-06 10:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋