of two divorced young people with no kids to have a successful marriage? a friend of mine is really confused because she loves the guy,,, but because both of them think they have "one more chance and that's it" .. she doesn't know what to do or what to expect. he asked her to give him some 'points' to discuss like, what does she want of him etc, but she is clueless. since she would never ask for help in person, i'm asking you to offer some suggestions. i would really appreciate it. what are the things they should not be afraid to discuss?the thing is that they are afraid of losing each other if they make some particular demands/ should they be more flexible or more stubborn now that they've had the experience?thanx a lot
2006-09-06 09:59:52 · 4 answers · asked by LadyPandora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how young is young? I think it is a recipe for disaster for ppl to get married so young. You think you know it all but you don't and then you have to figure out how to live as a couple while still growing and maturing. Tell her to stop dating for a couple years and then when she is a little older she will understand what to do differently.
2006-09-06 10:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healthy, realistic and reasonable expectations. There is a marriage site on eharmony.com. It is so insightful. I don't think it is the best thing for married people with existing issues, but it could be a great guide for your friends.
I think she should request things like, absolute honesty, reliability, trustworthiness, committment, consideration, support, and such. Not a dowry. There should be no apprehension about asking for these things, and there should be no "demands". I think they both know what they don't want, and that could also be
2006-09-06 20:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Curious. I also dont see why they are being so asinine about the situation. Your in a new relationship....treat it as such and dont bring in past bullsh*t from past relationships into the mix. Enjoy each other for as long as you can because there are no gurantees. NO ONE has any notion about this being their one last time to make a relationship work!
2006-09-06 17:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk abt why their previous marriages have failed and what they can do to not repeat it.
2006-09-06 17:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋