i need to tell him no but i feel like i'm offending him,,see he's miserable in the morning and i dont want to tell him that,,i;m not that way,,so i give him the excuse what iffi want to work over ,,he says he will,,i said then what if i dont want to work over he said he wont,,then he wants to stop at the bar and i dont want to,,i just can't say no..how do i handle this
2006-09-06 09:58:43 · 6 answers · asked by depechee2004 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
He's a big guy. Stop trying to care of him as well as you. Look out for your own interests.
Tell him that car pooling is not convenient for you and that is that. Is he paying your rent? My guess is no - so why do you owe him any kind of an explanation? Refer him to a rideshare board.
2006-09-06 10:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your own way to work...or ride with someone else for a while....or don't be around this person so they can pester you.....if you don't want to do something "just say no". Maybe he wants money from an additional rider, maybe you know someone who wants to ride with him to help him out.
You know, they say that sometimes people hang around someone because they think they can learn something from them. I can't remember the exact phrase but in colleges here they teach you not to hang with people who don't challenge your thinking, but choose those you can learn from. Maybe that's what he's trying to do.....or, he wants an evening partier....either way....you're not happy with this situation, so just tell him that. Hopefully you'll not need a ride in the future or you may be burning your bridge. Make other friends.
2006-09-06 10:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell this person the truth & get it over with otherwise you'll keep comming up with excuses I did the same thing to someone & I travel 45mins one way no joke
2006-09-06 10:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just answered ur own ?? you can say NO you dont want to stop at no bar!! if he was any kind of person to be hang-n with he would go by ur schedule, and appreciate the ride.. dump him b 4 its too late!! good luck
2006-09-06 10:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going to have to be direct and honest. Such as "I would really like to be able to help you out, but it is not working out for me, I am sure you understand." and then drop it. If he brings it up again simply say, "I have made my decision, I wish you the best, but I cannot help you anymore." Peace
2006-09-06 10:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF REALLY WANT TO BE NICE ABOUT IT...YOU CAN JUST SAY....
CARPOOLING IS NOT GOING TO WORK BECAUSE:
1. SOMETIMES I HAVE PLANS AFTER WORK.
2. THINGS TO DO BEFORE WORK.
3. SOMETIMES I SLEEP OVER A FRIENDS/PARENTS/SIBLING/BF.
THEN IF HE DOESN'T GET IT....ODDS ARE HE WON'T. YOU CAN SAY:
1. CARPOOLING IS JUST NOT FOR ME. SORRY -WALK AWAY AND DON'T LOOK BACK CAUSE THAT IS WHEN HE WILL TRY TO MAKE YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND.
2. CARPOOLING IS JUST INCONVENIENT FOR ME. AGAIN - WALK AWAY!!
2006-09-06 10:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋