My boyfriend says he loves me, but he keeps being inconsiderate. I hint at and also nicely tell him what kind of (easy) things would make me happy, but he is always a day late and a dollar short (mostly I have to be mad already to get the previously desired behavior - and by that time I don't want it anymore.) Basically, he is inconsiderate in small ways that add up to a big feeling of disappointment for me. For example - he didn't have anything planned for my birthday...and he could have done two very specific things that would have made me happy - but he didn't. Again "Sorry." Sometimes he says "I was gonna do that....." when I confront an issue. Why sorry, sorry, sorry, but no change in behavior? What does it mean?
I got to say that he does come home after work every day. He supports us (I'm at home with baby) financially. He's not a "bad" guy (except for his temper when we really get into it.). And sometimes it seems like he is trying to "get better" (he agrees that he neglects me)
2006-09-06 09:53:43 · 7 answers · asked by Just Visiting 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He was born with that word... he's a soft-soap liar.
2006-09-06 09:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by bizkit_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are creatures of habit. If you continue to forgive him for these mistakes--that are obviously not considered minor to you---then he will continue to make the same mistakes over and over.
I dont necessarily feel that he is being inconsiderate, it's just that men are very forgetful, and tend to be lazy. You need to think of all the good things he does though...obviously he supports you---isn't that something to be said for him? You cannot expect him to be perfect by any means...it just will never happen. Just let him know (one more time) how important thoughtfulness is to you...don't make it seem as though he does nothing for you now, just emphasize how much you love simple sweet things. Hopefully that will work.
2006-09-06 10:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, reason i comprehend i'm incorrect and that i apologise, no longer something incorrect with asserting sorry. that's not even no longer undemanding to assert you're sorry and rather mean it except that guy or woman has their very very own f****** ego. So nope, i'm no longer uninterested in asserting sorry. If i'm uninterested in asserting sorry then I shouldn't make blunders! lols :)
2016-09-30 10:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him no matter how many hints you drop. The only way he is going to change is if he wants to change. If you aren't happy then why not go to couples counseling. You really don't have very many options in a situation like this, and if he really is sorry and wants to change then he will be open to counseling.
2006-09-06 09:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose your battles. If he's a great guy in every other aspect maybe you can just realize that he lacks in this dept. You guys have a kid together so I wouldn't say you should break up with him but you have to think why is he choosing to neglect you. He knows he's doing it and continues and chooses sorry because it works. Its much easier for him to say sorry then to actually be considerate.
2006-09-06 09:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, don't just give him hints about it, or tell him nicely. If you make it seem important then maybe he will take it as important. There needs to be more communication and less assuming.
2006-09-06 09:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to change him and you can't. That's why you are frustrated. Sorry, but the solution is simple, accept him for all that he is, or isn't, or move on.
2006-09-06 09:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by bjsmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋