Its a private school that focuses alot on the children being polite and mindful.It really upset her,on her very first day of school-should I mention it to the teacher or let it slide unless it happens again.
2006-09-06 09:50:18 · 14 answers · asked by cassiepiehoney 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Your role shoudn't be to punish the boy, but to teach your daughter how to handle slights and insults. Even at a good school, this won't be the last time something like this happens, and she needs to know how to keep her self-esteem intact in the face of all that goes on around her. When she reports such an incident you can ask her what she thought of it or why she thought he said that, and take your cues from her. Since it was the first day of school, you could make a comment like, "Won't he feel silly when he gets to know you and finds out how smart you really are?" If being called "dumb" once really upset her, she must not have much trust in her own intelligence. This is an opportunity to build your daughter's self esteem and an understanding of the fact that people frequently make unfounded comments. Maybe his parents call him dumb? Maybe he hasn't yet learned that even intelligent people make mistakes? Maybe he likes her and was grasping at something to say to start a conversation with her? Certainly you don't want to turn what was probably a thoughtless or poorly-informed child's throw-away comment into a major incident!
2006-09-06 10:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by neniaf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie. I believe that children learn differently than adults - we can't treat the situation as we would between adults. I also believe that if children didn't get picked on nor go through things that we as adults see as very bad they wouldn't get tough or learn when they are adults.
Explain to your daughter that another's opinion of whether she's dumb or not is just that - someone's opinion. Challenge her to define "dumb" for herself and to substantiate why she thinks she is not dumb. Then challenge her to keep this mindset and ponder on it.
I believe that all too often other's opinions of us drive us - as adults too many of us blame our shortcomings on outside events or others rather than making cognizant choices and understanding the results - taking responsibility for such outcome.
We need to learn to value ourselves based on the strengths we have. We need to recognize weaknesses and build them. These habits start when young, but need to be cultivated properly in the manner of children's learning.
She can't change the other kid's opinion, but she can be taught that the other kid's opinion doesn't matter much in the grand scheme of life.
2006-09-06 17:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by buffy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell the teacher right away. You might also want to talk to the kid's parents. Best to nip this in the bud rather than let it happen anymore.
2006-09-06 16:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the teacher, so the kid doesn't keep it up.
Then explain to your daughter that she shouldn't take things personally, to consider the source and try not to worry about it.
I can see how it could upset her though...
2006-09-06 16:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by chili_eaters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would mention it to the teacher. Let them know your child was upset over something that was said to her.
They cannot take control of things if they are not made aware of them.
2006-09-06 16:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to his mom and find out what is going on. You need to hear both sides of the story, with both your girl, and the boy present.
2006-09-06 16:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by pug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mention it because if you let it slide it may continue.
2006-09-06 16:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let her pummel him and it will stop. Political Correctness has led us down this road and old time remedies will bring us back.
2006-09-06 16:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
my wife a teacher and what parent to tell about this problem ...So she can get it stop I going to tell you I want to Catholic school and I send my children to Catholic school Boys are Boys they will get away with what thy can
2006-09-06 16:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let it go but if he does it again take it to the principal
2006-09-06 16:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by shafferg23 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋