I was there for this person when her own family wouldnt help out. When she needed someone to talk to I was there. When she needed money, I was there. When she needed a shoulder to cry on, I was there. When she had thoughts of killing herself, I was there. She cheated on me with a couple of guys on campus and left me for another girl who knew we were together. It hurts!! I just want to be happy. Why cant someone love me for me?
2006-09-06 09:46:56 · 12 answers · asked by chakamm2980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st thing u can do is stop feeling sorry for urself and stop being so damn gullible... it is not ur job to fix everyones problems or help them out.. people can fix their own problems if they try.. u want a friend that much that u allow these people to walk all over u.. get some self esteem and start working on yourself and what makes u happy instead of u tryna make everyone else happy so they'll like u...
2006-09-06 09:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is some one out there who will love you for you. It might take a lot of wrongs ones to lead you to the right one, but there is someone. People can be very cruel sometimes when it comes to knowing how people feel. Many things can cause a relationship to end. Such as if the person was just in it for the wrong reason's or just because they needed some one at one time then didn't any more. This is another reason you should never get to serious until you are positive your partner is to. People cheat for one main reason because they don't want to go out with that person anymore and don't have the heart to let the other person down so they think that by cheating it will be over faster and there will be less pain but it never works like that. I hope this helps a little, but always remember no matter how bad it gets and you think no one is out there for you some one is but it just takes time. If you ever need to talk or just ask another question then please e-mail me!
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2006-09-06 10:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a big sign on your forehead that says"doormat-wipe feet here-? Sounds like it.
Let's recap-- you took her side when her family wouldn't-why wouldn't her family help her? Maybe they had been shafted enough? Maybe she has a crappy family? Did she stick up for you against YOUR family? You still want to "love her."
Then she needed someone to talk to--you were it? Why didn't she have a fleet of friends? Did she listen to you? Did she give you any good advice? Still "love " her.
money?-you, shoulder?-you. suicidal?--you-cheated on you?-you
left you for a lesbian trist? You are still there, pining?
Go look in the dictionary under "dumba$$" Your picture will be there.
It hurts? Yes, honey, you pick deceitful, nasty tramps to "love" it will hurt.
You want to be happy? Pick better or be a better choice yourself.
Someone can love you for you, but not if you are a walking tramp-magnet, a victim, picking up strays and clamping your love-bite on unworthy people.
Next time, really be yourself. If you help someone, let them help themselves, too. Let them help YOU. Give and take. If it is all give--you are getting taken.
If her family won't have anything to do with her--ask her why and really listen.Don't automatically think poor little her, and defend her.
You want a partner-not a project.--Don't be a dope
Do NOT give people money, EVER. Loan with interest, maybe, if you have known them a long time and see a remote possibility of payback. Otherwise, you are buying friends or setting yourself up to be a dope.
If someone says they are going to kill themselves, call the police. YOU are not qualified to help, and could be instrumental in someone actually managing to do it. It is NOT a game.
If someone cheats on you-she has no respect for you or your relationship. She is out for herself and is using you for a landing pad. This is whether it is a couple of times, with a girl or with the whole team. Don't let anyone treat you like that and get away with it. Or you will have a LINE of people waiting to hurt you.
I know you want to be happy. It is what everyone wants. What makes you happy and what you will put up with to get it, is personal. If life with a cheating, lying, unstable, needy tramp is what you want, give her a call.
If what you want is a partner who loves you and respects you, who listens to you, and appreciates your love, and won't go out of hher way to injure you--then change the bait, baby.
You can't change anyone else, and no one feels as sorry for you as you feel for yourself.
Get back out there, and good luck!
2006-09-06 11:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you're not the only one that this happens to. The reason why good people get treated so badly is because there aren't any good people hurting us. We get hurt by the bad ones and we are too nice to do the same to them. All I can tell you is not to change who you are. It will probably happen again at some point but think of it like this: You are finding out what you don't want so that when something good comes along, you'll appreciate it and recognize it.
2006-09-06 09:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by knightkrawler81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it will happen for you. Some people just don't know a good thing when they have it. It must suck, I know. But keep your chin up and keep truckin through the bad sh*t anyway. I can relate to you in a way. I kept on and didn't become bitter and have been happily married for 12 years now. I never expected it could or would happen but it did. JUST DON'T BECOME BITTER AND CLOSED OFF. Time does heal all wounds. lol
2006-09-06 09:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're a little TOO giving and generous with yourself. No one appreciates someone who is too easy and acommadating. It makes them look needy. Try being a little less available and a little more your own person without being a ***** about it.
In addition, it sounds like youre making bad choices in terms of who you give your love to.
2006-09-06 09:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that....Now suck it up....Your in college that means it's a meat market you are too young to be hurting over a dumb chick....go get some pussy and live it up then when you get out of college you can start looking for wifey.
2006-09-06 09:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You possibly wear your heart on your sleeve for all to see. YOU have to be careful with what you do for people. You may be viewed at as a doormat more than a friend.
2006-09-06 09:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to come first and put them later, focus on you next time around and do what makes you happy keyword YOU!
2006-09-06 10:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by kim_banning84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell me about it, because people cant live peacfully and cant let anyone live peacfully without taking everything away from them
2006-09-06 09:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋