how do I deal with this issue that can become a problem?

Question

I am a massge therapist who recently was hired at a very busy and promising spa. Before I was hired there was only one therapist available and from what I understand other therapists who worked there didnt last long. I was told from the initial meeting I had with the therapist who i had to massage that they sucked.
During my massage he did everything to trip me up and did not succeed. It was then I figured he was insecure. The first day I started my job I walked into the massage room and found wadded sheets on the table and a hamper full of dirty laundry. To me this was very disrespectful. Then he also showed up on the first day and proceeded to watch me like a hawk and made some of the clients feel guilty for booking with me. By saying things like oh you always said you were going to book with me mrs.... but you never had the time. I adressed this with him as best as I could by saying we are therapists in a profession of healing and nuturing others including each other

Answer 1

I think he is just jealous and is testing you if you are able to keep up with it. Take distance from this person...be professional an...hold tight. This kind of "harassment" wont last long. Its a test to see if you have strong characrter and if he can respect you.

Answer 2

well, you can back out, and let him win, and just give up, and go on and find another job, or you can say "if your doing this to make me quit, or make me leave, it will never work, because you dont know just how stubborn i am." if you just try and cow down, and let him be dominant, and just take all his crap.

i dont understand, was he the one that hired you? and now he's treating you like this? if this is the case, then i would really want to be asking him, "how can you hire somebody, and make a work environment seem at least somewhat pleasant, and then turn around, and just be so two-faced about everything? did you actually need an employee? are you prejudice against me because of who i am or who you think i might be? (if so, thats against the law and you have a lawsuit.)

is he just another employee of equal or closer ranking to you? if thats the case then you really shouldent take matters into your own hands and go to a higher athority about the problem between him and you. take into consideration, that under a managers eye's the one thats complaining is probably the one that needs to be gotten rid of. (thats not always the way it is, but usually thats the way it turns out, if there are no other additional supporting details.)

it sounds like this guy thats upset with you, is just upset, because now he's losing his flow of customers. when really, a good therapist gains loyal customers by giving quality service, and making the customer feel as though their money was well spent, and a truly good therapist's customer leaves in the end knowing they will return the next time they want excelent service. obviously, the man thats giving you trouble, doesnt quite understand how the system works, or does not care to realize the value of what good customer service can get you.

being the only therapist gave him alot of business where he worked, because there was no competition. he didnt have to be better than everybody else, he just had to show up to work everyday. he's pissed off because now, he's got to do more than just show up, and do a half-hearted job.

show him you can be just as stuborn as he is. and if he says anything to you about it, you can say "why cant you just be thankfull you have a job? i dont understand how anyone can be so ungratefull." (although this will probably make him very, very mad.)

Answer 3

Pray about it and confront him with the things you like and don't like. Just be frank with him about you and your profession

and I agree with Mike dusik

Answer 4

tell him that hes being very unprofessional