Ok, let me explain. My husband has cheated in the past. I know that he is being faithful now. But in the back of my mind I get this image every once in a while of other women in his arms. Why is that.
2006-09-06 09:39:00 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
girl i am going through the same thing right now as we speak and i feel the same way. my husband cheated on me and i know he's being faithful now but like u said in picture his doing it again the back of my mind! it makes u feel insecure doesnt it? even when you feel like you're attractive, u just feel like its not enough. its gonna take time for your heart to heal trust me cuz i have yet to get over it but i still want to be with him!
2006-09-06 09:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by ya girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
has your husband cheated more than once? whether or not your world and your values of marriage have been tossed around by him, and it hurts. you have been betrayed by him and your self esteem has taken a deep cut. the image is there in your mind because he has placed it there, and deep down inside,your trust of him has been shot down. i think maybe you are imagining him in someone's arms so you don't get hurt again. of course if it happens again it will still hurt but i think that you are starting to protect yourself from another hit. if you are to stay with him, you will find it difficult to trust him. if he does do it again then you must decide whether you want to be his doormat or be a strong woman and eventually find someone that wants you for your valuable, worthy self. i know that everything is easier said than done but you have worth and someone else will see that and treat you as their one and only someday. think very hard about your ego and how you deserve not to feel disturbed all the time. i truly wish you peace ,happiness and good luck. you deserve these things!
2006-09-06 10:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can forgive but never forget.Although to forgive means to forget.That means there it's over it happened its in the past.The chances of it happening again are 50/50 but that goes for everyone involved in a relationship not just you.I think that cheating is inevitable. Everyone is going to go through the temptation and not everyone will find out of the occurence.For the unfortunate who do ,well it can be devastating.It is your choice to worry on it or not. Like I said he did it before he can do it again,but when he gets home to you those arms are yours get in them.These thoughts of other women in his arms are just that "thoughts".Remember innocent until proven guilty.Don't go wasting your time trying to convict him iether,give him the benefite of the doubt for your mind sake
2006-09-06 10:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because once he made a deal with himself that cheating was OK--just to stay in his marriage-boredom, lonely, some newass- whatever--problem is- once he has crossed the line-he can't go back--all women are potential after that-- welcome to the land of infidelity--no-- you will never be safe again-- and you caved--like so many women--and so the cycle will forever continue--welcome to the club coward.
2006-09-06 09:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by upsuckit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is a hurt so deep that it just doesn't go away. It sounds like you are not over it yet and if you want to find a way to make your marriage work you need to get over it. Try talking to him about it. Sit down and make him tell you in detail what went on then, make it your decision to never bring it up again and honestly try to put it behind you. The only way I could get over it is by making him tell me everything and watching on his face the true regret he was feeling and it helped me to realize he really did regret what happened and was willing to do anything to prove it. That meant never going out without me again and counseling. It was something he chose to do to prove how much he wanted us to make it.
2006-09-06 09:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are quite normal. His infidelity has shaken your trust in him very badly. He has to earn it back.
For as long as you need it, he needs to be where he is supposed to be when he is supposed to be there. His life needs to be an open book for you at all times and if you want to check up on him or surprise him from time to time, he'll just have to deal with it until you are comfortable again. That the price he has to pay for his actions.
You should be commended for working through this.
2006-09-06 09:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That image will stay with you till the day you die. It is one thing to forget and forgive. It is another story trusting again.
2006-09-06 09:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will cheat again. Watch your back sister.
2006-09-06 09:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still insecure about your relationship. If you decided to give it another chance, you need to let it go, otherwise it could tear you apart.
2006-09-06 09:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true...a lepoard never changes it's spots. If he did it once, he'll do it again. Just don't waste your time worrying about it.
2006-09-06 09:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋