I want to get my eyebrow pierced, but my parents aren't going for it.?

Question

I really want to dye my hair a darker color and get my eyebrow pierced; I really want to. My parents were furious when I asked them for these things. How can I get it pierced without them knowing, or how can I convince them I can dye my hair and get the piecrcing? (literally, EVERYONE at school has died hair and facial piercings, even the preps.)

Answer 1

Listen to your parents.

Answer 2

Talk to your parents very maturely as to the reasons why you want to change your appereance. Convince them that darker hair and piercings does not necassarily make you a criminal or a bad person, etc.(specially in this day and age), that it's just a means of self-expression.

One POINT could be telling your parents that you'll cover the costs of the piercings and the hair dye. Don't expect them to pay for something they hate. This way you show responsability.

Don't even think on pulling the "EVRYONE at school has this" whine cause that's the easiest way you can get your parents to say no and start with that old-school, time-tested: "Well if EVERYONE at school would jump off a (proverbial) cliff..." speech.

Ask your friends at school where did they get their piercings; you might be tempted to do it yourself but then you run the risk of getting infections, etc.(That's a POINT you can talk to your parents about, show them that you're responsible enough to think about your safety).

If finally push comes to shove and your parents flat out refuse and put their foor down, you'll have two choices: Either to take it and move on, or to go behind their backs and get it without their permission. If you want to do the later, maybe the brow piercing would be easier to conceal (after all, you can take it out when you're around them), but the dark hair, there's no way of hiding it. Be prepared for groundings and lectures if they find out.

Maybe you should opt between one of the two things for now, either the dark hair OR the brow piercing. Which is ANOTHER good POINT to present to your parents: show them your ability to compromise, ask them if you can get at least one of your requests. But there's a catch to this option, suppose they agree and let you dye your hair but they won't let you pierce your eyebrow for example, you'll have to totally respect this because they TRUSTED you as an adult. If you go behind their backs and get the piercing anyway (or if they find you out), you'll be doomed, it'll be a looong time 'till they'll trust you again.

Oh parents! The grief they bestow upon your children!!! *lol

Answer 3

Omg! Just cause everyone else does it, like, I wanna do it too! Come on! First of all if you need your parents permission that means you are pretty young. Which also mean you have your whole life ahead of you to do stuff that you want to do.Trust me not being able to get a piercing or dye your hair a certain color is not the end of the world. There are much bigger problems out there and if this is your biggest you should feel grateful. My suggestion, respect your parents and just go with what they feel is right. Once you are 18 then you can do what you like.

Answer 4

Being a parent...I understand why you were told no.

Some advice - Try discussing the hair dying first. This is something that can easily be changed if you end up don't liking it and should be less of a shock for your folks.

This may also show that you are willing to compromise, which should make your parents happy.

Once you have done that and if your parents don't go crazy over it, let some time pass. Then calmly discuss the piercing. Go with something small and tasteful in the discussion....introduce them to some of your friends (the ones they would approve of) that have them to show them you are not going to turn into a deviant.

Then perhaps they will allow it....

But do NOT try and do it behind their back. It will tarnish your image with them and you will start hearing automatic NO! for anything you ask for in the future.

Good luck

Answer 5

I got my first tatoo at age 16 ~ unbeknownst to my folks. They didn't find out until I was 29. I am now 43 7 tatoos and many piercings. However, it is best to keep them all in discriminate places. If you are thinking about getting a job, holes in the face and scary hairdo's do not cut it. I am a professional and the ONLY piercings that show are my ears 5 holes in each. Get your belly pierced or your nipple, but not the face. That is really not an appealing look. Believe it or not, parents do know best. My 16 year old has her belly pierced and it is cute as can be. When she is 18 ~ she too can pick her tatoo.

Answer 6

My mom told me to wait until I turned 18 if I wanted facial piercing and when I did turn 18 I was glad I didn't do it because I know people who took theirs out and now they have scars....I am too vain to be able to live with a scar on my face.....so consider all the possibilities, all the pros and cons and decide if this is really what you want to do. As for hair dying thats fun to experiment with there are lots of formulas that will wash out in a few shampoos so you wont get stuck with something you don't like...do your research-it will make you look responsible to your parents which is good and help you decide what you really want.

Answer 7

You have to think about the consequences of your actions, whatever you decide and then really think about weather you can live with them or not. In the end, no matter what anyone else says, you are going to do what you want. Just make sure you know what you are doing.

Remember that your parents are looking out for what they believe is your best interests. They may be wrong sometimes, but they mean well and while you live in their house, they are the law. Sometimes laws have to be broken, just remember there are consequences to actions like that.

One more thing, Sometimes it's good to be different too.

Answer 8

If you're 18 go for it. If your under you need parental consent. Most piercing places won't do it unless your parents let you. I pierced mine a long time ago - I've taken it out since for work but I loved it. I hope you can talk them into it. Just show them you are mature enough to make the decision or make a deal. You'll get good grades or keep your room clean or something if they let you. That always worked for me growing up!

Answer 9

NEWS FLASH !
You live in their house. Until you turn 18 or move out, you should obey your parents. If I had a kid that got ANY body parts pierced without my permission, I would loop a dog chain through it and walk them around the block every day until they had it removed.
If everyone at your school had a swastika tattooed on their foreheads and chanted "zieg heil" would you want to do that as well?
Sigh...It seems like you are another member of the mindless masses that follow every trend in fashion.

Answer 10

dont get your eyebrow pierced just to be like everyone else. you will look like a dyke. and dont dye your hair just to be like everyone else unless you genuinely want it. and learn the meaning of the word literally since i know that not every single person in your school has dyed hair and facial piercings.

Answer 11

Come on girl. If they all jumped off a bridge would you do it. Do what makes sense. Do you think God created your body to have piercings running through your eyebrow, lip etc if so He would have made your eyebrow hang down like your ear. Besides to guys like myself its totally unattractive. Not only that you should honor your mother and your father, even though you dont think so now they do know whats best for you. Trust them....