I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. We fell in love and he decided he wanted to move in with me when I finished at uni. We got a flat together. I had just graduated so times were tight and we both tried our best to keep afloat. During this time he became very distant with me. things didn't seem right and he was always getting strange messages on the computer. I decided to log his conversations on aol and it turns out he had a conversation with a girl he dated twice (shes only 18 he's 25) about our relationship problems and that he wouldn't be talking to her if things weren't going well. she offered to break us up but then said she didn't want to be the one to do that if there are already problems.. We talked about it and he said it didn't mean anything blah blah and that he loved me. A few months later i found her number under a different name in his mobile. He has been different since then and we spend all our time together. is this guilt? do you think he will cheat?
2006-09-06 09:32:41 · 14 answers · asked by mkat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ditch him now! Even if he isn't about to cheat, this conduct is not very respecting of you. Cut your losses and run! I bet he's back with her within a week!
2006-09-06 09:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think he would cheat, if he hasn't already, he really shouldn't be trusted, i bet any trust you have in him is fading fast anyway if not already gone, if there's no trust, then there's no solid ground for your relationship, even if you tried to regain it, it would be too late as any trust you could ever possibly regain for him will be forever tainted, real solid loving relationships are not like that, i know its not an easy thing to do for you but you should seriously consider ending your relationship. If he loved you and i mean true love then he wouldn't have done what hes done, you don't need him and you don't need the emotional heart ache hes giving you, maybe not now but definitely one day you will wake up one morning look at him and think to your self 'I don't want you around me any more' and that's the day your going to feel and be strong enough to realise and get rid and when it does happen your going to look back and want to repeatedly kick your self for not realising sooner what a prat he really was, the relief you'll feel i guarantee you will be overwhelming, good luck hun do the right thing for you and your sanity. I promise you this when you do leave this poor excuse for a man and if he does go to this girl, she needs to be pitied as he will do the same to her. what goes around comes around and he'll get whats coming to him one day. x
2006-09-06 10:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by odette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man does not sound like he is going to treat you the way you deserve. I'm very sorry for your problems and I hope that you realize you can do MUCH better than a guy like this, talking to another woman about your relationship like this is kinda like cheating anyways and if it weren't he wouldn't be trying to hide things from you, if she were just a friend you would know her better too.... get a better man one who will really love you and enjoy every moment with you someone who makes you really happy not just sometime....goodluck!!
2006-09-06 09:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think he will cheat...or he probably did already. The main question is why does he have her number under a different name? To keep it away from you. And why would he keep it away from you.....baby girl it's cause he's cheating. She must be some what important in his life because he has her on her phone, but yet he is being selfish and stringing you along with him. Or he doesn't want to hurt you. ( I heard that line plenty of times by a**holes who cheat.)
2006-09-06 09:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has cheated already. He is in contact with another girl and hiding her phone number under a different name. Do you want to wait until you walk in one day and see her in your bed ? Its way too soon for you guys to be having these problems. Do yourself a favor and end it now before it gets ugly.
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2006-09-06 21:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by internetoptimiser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if he hasn't physically cheated on you, how do you feel about the relationship? If you already feel insecure and sad as a result of this situation, then he has cheated on you and the relationship has been altered. You should leave him. It will only get worse...
2006-09-06 09:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he have a non-romantic relationship with the girl? if so, he might just be talking. There are things you can't discuss with your girlfriend, after all.
If not, their only past association has been romantic... Bad news for your relationship. If he's not cheating already, he's planning to.
2006-09-06 09:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by AbdulShaza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you bare to live with all this uncertainty. Talk to him and ask him to be honest if he wants out of the relationship let him go. If he wants things to work out with you sort out this trust issue otherwise you will make yourself ill with worry. Good luck.
2006-09-06 09:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he? HE IS COME ON!!! Look at the facts. he talked with her and you talked about it then he changes the name. She is back up and hes giving her a little some some to keep her around. Open your eyes honey, Im sorry to tell you but he is and now ya know. Im sorry again!!!!
2006-09-06 09:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by patrick b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋