my lover is younger 5 years than me ,we love each other so much,but his family does't agree about our marriage,he told me he can't live without me and i cant imagine my life without him,,, but im afraid be time he could change his mind or he couldn't getover this,,,i think he'll always think about this he told me he didn't see a man married a woman between them 5 years befor.. pls tell me what do you think about it...
2006-09-06 09:27:00 · 10 answers · asked by shima 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should NEVER EVER base your relationship upon other people's beliefs/opinions. Five years is not that great of an age difference, and if you are already married, are you really going to divorce simply based on someone's opinion of YOUR situation?
I think your biggest mistake is caring what others think. If they love him (as they should since they are his family) they will support him and if they don't then they should not be allowed in his life (even if they are family).
Even if you two are somehow going to fail (which I don't necesassarily believe, seeming as you two love each other very much)...they need to realize that everyone needs to learn from their mistakes, and regardless of the decisions we all make in life we need someone to stand by our side.
I say cut them out of your life --or have a talk with them explaining exactly what I just said--- and if they don't change their viewpoint, forget them.
Remember they don't have to like you, but they should respect you because their son loves you.
2006-09-06 09:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on what age you are. If your 24 and he is only 19 it does make a difference, because of the maturity issue. Does his family think he is mature enough to make a decision like this? I know some people only think of age as a number but is it really in a situation like this? Have you both shown you are mature enough to deal with all the issues that may crop up in a marriage?
2006-09-06 16:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter's best friend, age 49, married a 29 year old man a couple years ago. It was what I call a marriage of intellectual rapport, they are both very intelligent and really communicate well, and finally fell in love and married. I was so happy for her, it was a first marriage for both of them.
Five years is nothing, unless he is under 18...
2006-09-06 16:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so afraid and insecure and he is so concerned about his family's reaction, then you two are definitely not ready for marriage. You need to wait and gain a little bit more maturity so that you are better able to make a sound decision.
2006-09-06 16:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey love is stronger then anything! If you are saying the truth, then that man loves you for you and he cares so much bout you!
2006-09-06 16:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by country_cowgirl2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you worry this much about everything? Haul his butt off to the minister and get married...what is the big deal here?
2006-09-06 16:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to tell his family to get over it and accept it or go to heck!
2006-09-06 16:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord women, be confident!!! If he already told you he loves you and your the one, ACT like it!
2006-09-06 16:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number.
2006-09-06 16:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really love you,he will love you forever.(true love).
2006-09-06 16:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋