I am 2 months pregnant and I am keeping the baby, but the father says he is not the father. He keeps telling people that I am a slut and when the baby is born he will take it. What should I do!!
2006-09-06 09:22:46 · 9 answers · asked by kcl46647 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If he really doesn't think he's the father and wants nothing to do with you, why is he threatening to take it from you? If he feels it's not his, he shouldn't feel the need to threaten you that way. I have a friend in a similar situation, but she had blood tests done on both boys( yes she was stupid and went back for more.) and the a$$hole now pays her 200 a month for his kids that he never sees and barely even talks to. When that baby is born, you get a blood test done. If he's the father, and you can proove he's been saying these things, take him to court for custody if that's what he wants. When that judge rules in your favor considdering how young the baby is, Smear it in his face and get him to pay you a good chunk of child support each month. Don't let him scare you. That is all he's trying to do. If he says one minute he's not the father and the next he wants custody, he's just trying to punk you into doing something rash. Don't give in, you are a strong person and you made him angry by getting pregnant. He blames you, but it's just as much his fault as it is yours and if you decided to keep that baby, by GOD you can. I think you should.
2006-09-06 10:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if he isn't the father like he says he isn't then he can't take the baby. Questions one, how old are you? Second question, how old is he? If you are under age and he is over 18, then he MIGHT have a chance at taking the baby if you don't have any help, but that is a slight might. And that is only if he can prove that you are an unfit mother. If you are then, change your ways and better yourself for your child. If not then don't worry about it. If you are of age and he is too, then like I said before the only way he can take the baby is by proving you are an unfit mother. I would go to you local social services office and ask them and give them specifics. They can better help you and let you know what your state laws are. Also, forget the father (what he keeps telling people). Let him do that and it'll just prove that HE'S an unfit father. You are now a mother and need to conduct yourself as such and let him be an immature brat. You are above that.
2006-09-06 16:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong in yourself as a woman and as a mother. You do not need this type of negativity in your life. Do not continue any type of communication with him. If he is harassing you seek a restraining order. Change your phone number, residence (move far away if that is possible) completely cross him out of your life. If he decides after your baby is born that he wants to be a father then you can cross that bridge when you get there. Tell then this baby is your sole responsibility. Do what's right for you and you baby. Good luck to you. Stay strong.
2006-09-06 16:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Q&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the truth, that's what matters now. Try to document some proof (tape record a conversation, save e-mails etc) and filing a restraining order against him if the behavior continues. He may just be worried about being a father right now, though that's no excuse. Find local support in your area through family planning centers and faith-based organizations. They will help you through this time in your life and help you enjoy it.
Best Wishes.
2006-09-06 16:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are assholes and they don't realize the dumb **** they do but enough about him. For one if you dont put him on the birth certificate he can't do nothing but on the flip side it may be harder to get child support that way. Although all it takes is a simple blood test. Seriously though you gotta take care of yourselve he may come around later he may not, for now though it's all about you and your baby. Extra info. you can file for child support in the 9th month.
2006-09-06 16:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lil.Mans.Ma07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he says he isnt the father how could her take it? he can't claim he is not the rather and take the baby
2006-09-06 16:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET A PATERNITY TEST AFTER THE BABY IS BORN (COUNTY HEALTH DEPT) AND MAKE HIS *** PAY CHILD SUPPORT. JUST REMEMBER TO BE STRONG AND IGNORE HIS IMMATURE BEHAVIOR!! GOOD LUCK
2006-09-06 16:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they can not prove you to be an unfit mother you will be fine. Just focus on your little one and yourself. Congrats on accepting your responsibilities to your little one !!!!
2006-09-06 16:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A DNA test will answer that question once and for all.
2006-09-06 16:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋