My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, been friends for 7 years, lived together for 4 months.
We are both in debt and are struggling to keep our heads above water. I have decided to seek help and I've been offered services from a financial advisor for free, because he is Partner's with my boss (Whom I trust fully) He is helping me to set my budget and has opened up a Roth IRA savings plan for me.
I talked to my boyfriend about how I would like us to work together and get out of debt and on a road to success and he basically, told me well that is your deal, I dont want to budget myself, it will be too boring (he is 32 years old) I am 25, and I am ready to start planning for my future.
Should I move on or stick with someone who isnt interested in planning for the future?
2006-09-06 09:03:43 · 6 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he is that much older than you and doesn't see the picture the same as you do, time to reevaluate the relationship. You are very smart and logical to start this planning at such a young age and it will pay off greatly. At his age, he should be thinking the same way and all he wants to do is spend, spend, spend.
My ex-husband was the same way, at the same age. Now he has nothing but a truck that he can't afford the payments on half the time. He doesn't even have his own home.
2006-09-06 09:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by shebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a grown man now. Well past the age when he should have started thinking seriously about the future....sounds to me like he is not ready to "grow up"...while you are. I know that men take longer than women to mature...but 32? Come on! It is time for him to get his act together. If you two don't plan on a future together then I don't really see an issue with this...but if you do plan to be together in the future then something needs to change. Hasn't he ever heard the statistic that money is the biggest cause of problems in a relationship> because it's true. I hate to tell you this but sometimes our head has to overrule your heart--and in this case I think that is true. While it seems you have been friends for a long time, the relationship itself is still young and you still have time to salvage. i would try sitting down with im again and talking about how important the future is. If this does not change his opinion then get out and fast. You cannot change a person--so I would not even try.
2006-09-06 09:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You are 25. You are trying hard to get out of debt and you are doing good and planning for a future. He is 32, isn't doing anything to fix his debt and is uninterested in planning for the future. Where is your dating leading to if he is uninterested in planning for the future?!
2006-09-06 09:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to verify with him and enable him know what you want. If he's unwilling to provide that to you, it truly is not any longer properly worth continuing the relationship. you need to be genuinely satisfied contained in the relationship. Loving someone isn't sufficient each so often. You deserve someone emotionally in track with you. do not settle, you isn't satisfied contained in the lengthy run. it truly is fantastic being in love and calling someone puppy names like "sweetie", and if he received't enable you do this then possibly that's time to bypass on. there is someone available it is strictly what you want.
2016-11-25 00:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by sharples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't showing more signs of responsibility by age 32, I'd say he isn't likely to improve with time.
If you do stay with him, for goodenss sake, KEEP YOUR FINANCES SEPARATE FROM HIS.
2006-09-06 09:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON.
2006-09-06 09:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋