my partner of 5 years and i are at relationship breakdown,he feels that we have reached the end of the road...we always fight and argue he said i will never change he treats me like a door mat and i let him,commuincation is a big issue..he asked me to move out i have not but he has not mentioned it for a week..even though he told me its over im still living with him we still share a bed i still do everything 4him..he does not touch me but sleeps with me in same bed he hardly looks at me im deseprate to save this relationship any ideas????thanks....
2006-09-06 09:02:59 · 9 answers · asked by skinnyminniekitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont understand him to be honest like he comes home tonight totaly normal said if i take him to play pool he will put 10 quid in my car (petrol) i live in his parents house...look guys i really dont wanna lose him ive dropped abit of weight look and feel worn down..
2006-09-06 09:16:59 · update #1
Sorry that you have wasted five years of your life. It appears that your dependent on him and need something or have a fear of abandonment. Try moving in with friends and family or find a shelter for women. You need to get away from this guy, hopefully you will find someone who loves you for the person that you are.
2006-09-06 09:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Two routes you can take.
Very calmly ask him to sit down for a talk. Tell him that you have seen the error of your ways and will work on changing your behavior to give it one last try. Yes, he may act like a jerk to you, but sometimes one has to change their behavior before the other will change their behavior.
The other route is to just let go. I think that people can change, but when in the heat of arguing, instinctively everything stays the same. This may be the last thing you want, but I would start thinkig seriously about moving out and what you will do after that.
2006-09-06 16:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably done everything you can think of to save your relationship but if he doesn't notice that you are trying then you know what............He is not worth it and you can move on. But get this, once you are gone and you moved on then he is the one that is going to regret not having because like that one the saying goes.........You never know what you have until its gone. And if its ment to be some how ya'll will get back together. Let love take its course. Don't be afraid to be beautiful and spontaneous and to try new things.Five yrs together is a long time but just imaging another five yrs. You'd be miserable and divorced. So move out and move on but slowly. And keep your chin up!
2006-09-06 16:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by sashgiarub0105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it his place you are living in? I would start looking for a place or move with a friend, you need to give him some space, he may find he misses you and want you back or he may not, but you need to be strong and be prepared that he does not love you anymore. Surprise him and leave without any fighting, just put on your most sexy outfit with full makeup, say farewell with a smile and a wriggle of the hips.walk out with a hunk (if you can borrow one)
2006-09-06 16:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by cheyenne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave... give your relationship some space. Or ask him to move out. Find your if you really need each other, or simply have become accustomed to one another. Go out with your friends, enroll yourself in a gym, learn a different language, go to a spa etc... if after some time apart realize you still love him, then give your relationship a second chance. If not, is time to move on.
2006-09-06 16:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that you have already lost this man. There is no point in trying to keep his love when he has none to give you. You can do this just be strong and walk away the sooner you do the sooner you can get over him and open up another chapter in your life, because this one is closing. Everything will be alright without him and you will be able to survive with him you just have to get past it and you will too. Good luck and i am sorry for your pain.
2006-09-06 16:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. He obviously doesn't want to be in a relationship any more. Hard as it may seem to be at the time, you will see that life goes on.
2006-09-06 16:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST be depserate to want to be with a mna who treats you like crap
You have no self-respect or self-esteem
Do yourself a favor - GET OUT!
2006-09-06 16:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety let him go. Who's house is it? If he wants out he should leave!!!
2006-09-06 16:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋