yep, im gana have a baby! and how am i supossed to tell my x husband and his family that im having his baby! ? They have told me so many times not to get pregnant!! and now i am (whoops) and my family hates my x husband, how are they going to love a child that no one wants except me? HELP!!! im having a really emotional moment!!
2006-09-06 08:46:49 · 33 answers · asked by mE! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Eeeke, even if it's in such a precarious situation, you are excited about having this child. That is a good sign that you will love your child. No matter how upset your family may be, your love for your child will endear them into loving your child as well.
When talking with your ex-husband, remember that it takes two people to get pregnant. The pregnancy is a result of both your actions AND his actions. He can only blame you as much as he blames himself.
Since i don't know him, it's hard to say exactly HOW to tell him. But here is what I recommend with what I know: 1) tell him in person. 2)Warn him that it's big news, so he is prepared. 3)Just say It, "I am pregnant with our child, and I am keeping the baby." 4)Tell him as soon as possible, he deserves to know.
If he responds with aggressive anger, Leave immediately, and tell him you will talk about it when he is calmer. No matter what his response, remember that although you have had time to think about this, the news will be shocking to him. Give him time to absorb the information whatever way he needs to.
When you are emotional, sometimes a list of the basics help, so I hope my simple list helps you somehow. Stay calm. Stick to the basics. Your family loves you; they will also love your child.
2006-09-06 09:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 06:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that you are stuck in a bad circumstance. Unfortunately you are going to have to tell him that you are pregnant. Let him be the one to tell his family, that is his problem to tell them now not yours. As for your family eventually you will have to tell them as well. Now think of all the people who do not like there son in laws or daughter in laws if they have children they have to have a bond with there grandchildren because that child is a part of them, and if they choice not to have a bond with the child why would you want them around your children? ! It doesn't really matter what they think about him or you anymore. What matters right now and your family's concern should be that you are pregnant and they are just going to have to accept that your ex husband is the baby's father. I feel bad for saying this but if his family doesn't want to be a part of that child's life well they just don't have to be, they are the ones who will lose out on their grandchild's life. It's unfortunate that your child will not have two sets of grandparents but that's why some people make there own. Someday you might meet and older couple who will treat your child like a grandchild and it won't matter. Take a deep breath and relax... things will get better... they always do... the storm has to end sometime!
2006-09-06 09:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the only thing that matters is yours and the baby's health right now. the emotional strain of the whole situation may really affect the outcome of everything. i personally have been in a similar situation (my now-husbands mother did not approve of me getting pregnant with our second child so soon after the first - i lost the baby, and i believe that it was due to the stress). Personally, as hard as it may be -- wait until the first trimester passes to tell any family - just tell your x. after that the chances of miscarrying are slim, and they will just have to learn to accept it...and I am sure that it may be difficult, but they will. and if they don't they have serious problems and don't need to be involved with your child's life. This is about YOU and what's best for you and your unborn child.
2006-09-06 08:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by shimmy shake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first - the child should not be punished because they don't like the father - that is just wrong - really wrong.
It's your life, and if you are happy about this child, then be happy. They can either join you and support you in your decision, or have them just stay the hell away, you don't need lectures or speeches, as what is done is done. You need support and loving care, so surround yourself with those who will be a positive investment in your situation.
As for the x - unless you want something from him in the way of financial support, or you think he will want to be a part of the childs life, don't tell him. You don't have to put any fathers name on the birth certificate if you don't want to
2006-09-06 08:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family really loves you then they will accept this child. This child is a part of you so they should love it. I am pregnant right now with my exes baby, I don't think his family knows yet, and I am scared to tell them. My family knows and they already love the child. Just tell them, they might surprise you. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-06 08:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey it is YOUR life! What your family might think is not important, you get to live your life your own way.Telling your ex about this is of course a must. Maybe he can even support you and the kid. (i think by law he is obliged to) Getting pregnant by your ex may not be something you have been planning on, but it happened so now deal with it. You are going to have a lovely kid i am sure, and your family will love it because it is yours.
2006-09-06 08:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's not going to take you back, baby or no baby.
2ndly, get a dna test when that baby is born...I smell a Maury Show coming on!
And finally....your family will love the baby because it's a baby.
And next time, bring condoms to the party.
dannnnng!
2006-09-06 08:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahh the old keep a man baby...just so you know they don't work, you're not the first one to try this. If you got pregnant out of spite it just makes it that much worse...
They will love the child because it is still their blood...as for how they treat you may be different. If they are civilized people they won't hold their contempt for your against your child...but they could treat you differently...if you believe that's gonna be their recourse; obviously you do because you don't even want to tell them.
2006-09-06 08:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Skinny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello, well i would talk to your ex-husband first to see what you guys should do and how are you guys going to approach this to yours and his family...yes well maybe they do hate your ex but he's the father of your baby...Watch after the baby is born your family will learn to love your little one even thought its your ex...anyways, i hope i help a little. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-06 08:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by sweethoneybee84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋