Over the last few years I've let go of my longtime friends from high school and college. Just recently I've decided to cut ties with one of who I considered my "best friend". Over the years she has been suportive of me but there would be times she would say mean things or act cold towards me. After awhile the little pricks she would make at me became a big sore and now I feel after I've realesed her from my life I am very satisfied and content. My question derived from observing other people who dont let got of friends like these and keep them around. Am I wrong to let them go and continue to be treated like this?
2006-09-06 08:35:50 · 14 answers · asked by empowered2008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Everytime they have done something I thought was mean or was jealous I 've asked them what's going on. They just apoligize with an insencere heart.
2006-09-06 08:41:01 · update #1
And then I just forgive them and then it happens again.
2006-09-06 08:41:40 · update #2
a friend who is jealous and mean and cold is not a friend. sounds like you have done the correct (and mature) thing. you will find out as you get older who really does care about you and who really doesn't. most of the time, it isn't personal, and you just drift apart, but sometimes you will find that you have to get away from a relationship that while convenient at one point, was never really what was best for you in the long run. btw, forgiveness is one thing, but someone who asks for forgiveness is supposed to strive not to repeat the error. doesn't sound like your "friend" put much thought into changing their behavior.
congrats on this step to maturity!
2006-09-06 08:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No u r not wrong for letting them go. U have to ask urself 'If they were really my friends, would they treat me like this?' A friend is one who is suportive and offers words of encouragement. Not one who puts you down, is jealous of you, and/or makes you feel bad. A person needs to always be surrounded by positive things and people. If they continue to be negative towards you, then cut them out of ur life. And trust me, u'll feel alot better about urself once its done.
2006-09-06 08:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by cinnimontwist518 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did a bold thing by letting go. I had to do the same thing even though sometimes I miss the conversations I don't want to compromise. So now I'm working on myself. Your friend you let go will still try to chat with you but you can do it differently now. Just not with so much personal stuff about you. If you don't put your heart there it will be easier and easier to move on.
2006-09-06 08:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to let go of friends who treat your poorly. True friends would not pick at you and make you feel bad. Especially, if you feel better without her in your life, that shows that you made the right choice. Good job standing up for yourself.
2006-09-06 08:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lucrecia2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do no longer provide up on her! At my college we basically had 3 suicides in the previous 2 weeks. the main contemporary one became right into a instructor on Friday night. What i'm getting at is that suicide is a terrible tragedy that is prevented. basically tell her which you're her chum and you care approximately her dearly. Giving up on somebody will thrust them further and extra into melancholy and that can cause them to behave upon the suicidal techniques. basically be there for her mentally and emotionally. sturdy luck.
2016-10-14 09:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by saleh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong but I know it can be a hard thing to do. I have a friend whom I considered to be my best friend that I really need to let go of. She is trying to destroy my relationship with the man that I love because I think she is secretly in love with him too. With friends like that, who needs enemies?
2006-09-06 08:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by Red 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Guess what? I just did the same recently with a best friend, at least I thought he was my best friend, and got rid of him. I didn't noticed it at first because I thought he meant well but more and more I realized he never had good intentions for me and occassionally he'd call me nasty names, he'd call me "hey slut!, hey skank!" as though he was trying to be funny but I know now why he call me that because I was really good with talking to girls and he couldn't so he was extremely jealous and in way try to guilty trip me and put me down at the same time. But I put up with it for over 7 years! Yes! 7 years of that same "hey slut, hey skank!" After 7 years and he still calls me the same name over and over and never grew out of it. We had problems where we didn't talk for over 3 years because I thought I was a bit too sensitive and he never bothered to call me and say let's be friends again and it was me who had to call him back, so I really missed his friendship during that time. So this time around I couldn't sleep and was stressed out about confronting him because I knew that if I did that he ignore me again like he did before. So I really was afraid that I might be too sensitive and didn't want to lose his friendship. No matter though, I was to the point couldn't concentrate anymore so I decided to talk to him and now I am sooooooooooooooo happy that I did and realized I don't miss him at all like I did few years ago when we didn't talk. You know why I don't miss him at all? Because I realized he was never a good friend. He was abusive but in a sneaky way where he made me feel that it's my fault for being sensitive and he even called me insecure. So now I realized he was not a friend afterall and that he was actually a tumor in my life. So good riddence! I fully support your decision and never ever go back to that relationship unless she comes apologizing sincerely otherwise people like your friend and mine will continue to abuse us. Good luck and be strong. NEVER LET ANYONE BRAIN WASH YOU, GUILT TRIP OR ABUSE YOU (including verbal) The blocked out name calling was S L U T
2006-09-06 08:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, life is too short to include those who treat you poorly! Regardless of if they are family or friends. If they make you feel negative and put you down, move on!
2006-09-06 08:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by LL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've let go of a lot of friends from my past who were like that. I am much happier myself. Those friends will find new friends who are just like them. misery loves company, and let them be miserable together. Its good to be selfish when it comes to our own wellbeing and happiness.
2006-09-06 08:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by itsasecret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have let a few ex friends go throughout my life
2006-09-06 08:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋