The first one I've been with since I was 18, the other one I've known since I was 15, but just recently started seeing each other, now he said he loves me, I still love the first one, but the second one makes me feel so damn good. The first one is very financially stable the other not so stable, but he makes me feel good. I have no children, but how do I choose and how do you end a 13 year relationship?
2006-09-06 08:35:06 · 8 answers · asked by Freckles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't end that 13 year relationship! That guy has been with you through bad times and good. This other guy may make you feel good because you have always secretly had a crush on him. I think when a person knows what they already have; if it's good they better keep it. In every relationship I've have ever been in; one partner will seems to always love more than the other. Nobody's perfect but where was this guy all these years if he was the one all along.
2006-09-06 08:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A new relationship is always filled with the fantasy the extreme happiness and pleasure you now feel will last forever, but usually it does not. When that relationship becomes as seasoned as the last one, the major difference between the two will boil down to financial security. The first one has invested 18 years into getting to know you, loving you for who you are, and learning to live with you; that too is security. Are you sure you wish to trade all you already have, for the "lesser possibility" of greener pastures?
2006-09-06 09:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that you are liking the second guy only because he's something new? After being in a 13-year relationship, something new can start to look intriguing. Does the first one know about the second one?
I would have to say, follow your heart and be with the one you are most happy with.
2006-09-06 08:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
why are you dropping a even as with those adult men?? in case you opt for both one of them you'd be in a loveless marriage. you may't trust #a million, and also you're uninterested in #2. trust me you may't change someone for your liking, existence basically would not artwork that way. you may want to understand and trust that you deserve more desirable proper than both this kind of losers. you need to have more desirable love for your self to make certain that. Do you've low self-worth, because any female who settles has themes...take your time to be with your self and also you'd be in a position to make this determination on your own. develop your new child and supplies him your comprehensive undivided interest and ignore about those losers. No actual female might want to opt for both!
2016-11-25 00:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breathe first of all, do they both know about each other, if you are honest with them both about what is going on, you may not have to pick one, because one might see themselves out, if there is a complete understanding choose the one that knows the title of the book you would write, if you had to write one, basically you need to embrace the one that listens to you and hears and apreciates you, if that's both of them then you may just have to really take some time apart from them both and see who you thought of the most.
2006-09-06 08:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking that question, you don't want to leave the first one. The second one is temporarily filling a void that the first one can't. But that's all. It's basically an infatuation.
2006-09-06 08:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by phil5775 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you look just a LITTLE deeper in your heart...you know which one makes you feel the best inside.
Read this and see which one of the guys appears in your head more.
It's the one who you would want to lean on in tough times, when it just feels like life is too tough to bear.
The one you'd want to be there for in his tough times. The one you don't ever want to have to say "No" to.
It's the one you are able to be yourself with, and don't worry that he'll think your stupid.
It's the one who gives you butterflies and makes your heart soar when you see him or hear his voice on the phone.
It's the one that you know you are with because your heart wants to, and not because your head tells you he'd be a better provider. (though some sort of responsiblity is desired, you don't want him to be a complete bum)
I hope this helped. Follow your heart...the answer is in there!
Ask God to help you to know the one.
2006-09-06 08:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
How could you have been IN love with the first guy if you allowed yourself to see someone else to the point that HE is in love with you?? When you cheat on someone its not suppose to be easy to decide what to do next. You have to search within yourself for this one. Last thought...no matter what you decide...YOU will have caused a good guy unecessary pain.....you think about that!!!!
2006-09-06 08:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋