I have just got married but I feel my hubby only no's like 3/4 of me and their is like another 1/4 I can't share wit him cuz he will throw a hissy fit and continually be nasty to me until I change to what he wants. Why can't he accept me as I am rather than expecting me to be this ultra-perfect wife according to his expectations? Like, I put up wit accept the parts of him that aren't perfect - in fact I find them rather endearing.
2006-09-06 08:21:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry that your marriage is off to a bad start. Don't compromise who you are - or you will be as miserable as your husband sounds. Just continue being you, and do what makes you happy. My father gave me this advice once: There is something worse than being by yourself . . . . . and that is wishing you were! Good Luck. Also, remember life is to be enjoyed!
2006-09-06 08:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a trust issue. Unless he can accept you for who you are, you'll never really trust him.
Here's how to start fixing it: Ask him what he's done in his life that he regrets the most, that he felt really bad about. He'll admit something. Then you can admit something similar - or you admit something first, then ask him, if that's easier for you. Neither of you will freak out - you'll likely be sympathetic. You'll both feel better, and start talking more.
2006-09-06 15:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know how u feel, will watch 4 answers also.
2006-09-06 15:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage needs counseling. man abusive.
2006-09-06 15:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋