He tell me that relationships don't take maintenance, and I should not expect him to communicate with me. (We have a long-distance relationship) I hear from him less and less and has many "reasons" for this, nothing to do with me. He wants me to compare our relationship with those of my other friends. But, yet, he says nothing has changed about how he feels about me. Am I crazy if I believe him?
2006-09-06 08:03:34 · 19 answers · asked by confused13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are asking "Is this the end of the relationship?" that's a good indicator the answer is a big YES. Go with your gut and quit trying to figure it or him out.
2006-09-06 08:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all its not maintenance, its called compromising. If he is using the word maintenance, then he feels like he is having to put in work in this relationship, and its becoming a routine job in other words. Someone who is in love wouldn't say that to someone else. Relationships are based on communication, compromising, trust, and everything else that comes after that. Maybe he just cant handle the long term thing anymore, and comparing you guys to your friends is probably his way of telling you that you could be happy with someone else or just by yourself. His feelings for you aren't going to change because he probably does love you, just living apart is rough on some people, give it some time without bothering him about it, because you might put some stress if you keep wanting to talk about it. Good Luck!
2006-09-06 08:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, he's definitely a schmuck that doesn't deserve you! Relationships shouldn't take work, they take effort. You also can't compare relationships unless you know that you are exacly like the girl, he's like the guy and you have similar circumstances, and even then no two are the same. Do what's right for you! If he's not making you feel loved and wanted, then he's not right for you! At least not right now. Look else where in your life for some distractions and clear your head and then listen to your gut feeling. Who knows, maybe in the mean time someone who really deserves you will pop up!
2006-09-06 08:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Iristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comunicatin is the BIGGEST thing in the relationship and maintanence is ABSOLUTLY needed!!! If he is saying this and talking to you less i would think 1. he is cheating on you and 2. he doesnt care. Yes this is the end. YOU should make it the end you dont deserve to be treated like S H I T!!! Leave him and find someone close to you that acutally cares about you and wants a relationship
2006-09-06 08:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by TEMPTRESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's over, or more importantly it should be.
Relationships ARE Maintenance and Communication
If he values neither you are in for a bumpy ride that will end badly. For Sure. 100% sure.
Cut your losses and get out now. Who needs a LDR anyway.
Good Luck
2006-09-06 08:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always believe that long distance relationships are not the best type of relationships they tend to fall apart and leave you an emotional wreck?!?!?! If he is not willing to try and make y'all work then maybe you should rethink your position and your feelings toward it you know?!?!?!? Maybe you should try and gradually wing your self away from him maybe in his own way he is trying to let you go to think about it what is he trying to do?!?!?!
2006-09-06 08:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he's not already sleeping with somebody else he will be soon. And even if you were in the same town, would you want a man who refused to communicate with you? My last boyfriend was like that, and I dumped his ***, after publicly humiliating him on my blog. Hell hath no fury and all that........
2006-09-06 08:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds kind of suspicious to me. if he's making up excuses as to why he can't talk to you and telling you that you shouldn't expect him to communicate with you, something is definitely going on. i don't mean he's cheating on you, i just mean that either he's confused or lost or losing the feeling or something because if you really care about the person your with you'll want to talk to them!
2006-09-06 08:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Princess Skullface 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a little. usually with long distance both people stay in contact with each other as much as possible.
2006-09-06 08:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Deni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's over.
I mean, if you're enjoying the relationship as is, don't stress about it, but if you're not (and from your question it seems like you are not) you need to dump him.
2006-09-06 08:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Toga748 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋