2006-09-06 08:01:41 · 19 answers · asked by Alex K. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not your job to keep marital secrets. If you do, it will drive a wedge between you and your parents. You will feel guilty around your mother and resentful around your dad.
The best way to do this is to go to your dad and tell him that you know about it, and that if he doesn't tell your mother, you will. After a week, if he doesn't tell her, you'll have to do it.
2006-09-06 08:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may sound, I think that you should tell your mother what is going on but before you do that make sure that you know for a fact that your Dad is cheating. Your Mom has the right to know and nothing would be your fault. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-06 08:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, you don't need to get involved in this situation, besides she won't want to believe you. If he's cheating, she may be in denial and will have to get out of that state of mind herself without you. Time has a way of taking care of everything, my kids found that out when they saw their Dad cheating. They wouldn't tell me, but my being with him for as long as I did, I figured it out & verified it myself, then I asked him to stop cheating. When he didn't after a couple more years, I divorced him when he least expected.
2006-09-06 11:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how old are you? Second, how do you know what you think you know? Over all the answer is no you should stay out of it. If your mother has a sister or someone she is close to you could tell them your suspicions and let them know what makes you believe that and then let them decide whether to tell or not.
2006-09-06 08:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your dad you know what he's doing... and let him make the decision whether to tell her himself. If he chooses to continue like you say he is, then you've given him the chance to fess up... and you can choose to tell her. Maybe.. something like.. "Hey, Mom, you need to talk to dad about things"
Good luck
2006-09-06 08:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you a little story.....I caught my best friends husband cheating on her.....She says that it was the best thing ever.....But it has changed our relationship. We are still friends, she divorced her husband, but we aren't as close as we used to be.
Be very careful.....Maybe you could tell someone else and they could tell her.
If you are young and living in the house this could destroy your family as you know it.....if you are older and on your own do what you believe is best.
2006-09-06 08:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad he's got to come clean with her. Give him a time frame and tell him that if he doesn't do it, you will.
Understand that he will be upset with you, and that it may lead to their separation. In no way is this your fault.
Good luck.
2006-09-06 08:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hard one in the end women always find out. I would not tell her directly i would aproch DAD and tell him you know and you want to know what's going on and ask him to tell mom.
2006-09-06 08:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you have to undergo this, but I think the best you can do is to let her know, not directly though nor with photos. probably let you mama go through the steps you took to discover your cheating papa. sad indeed.
2006-09-06 08:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by thelovebug 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, you should. Just sit her down one day and tell her "mom, I'm really upset because i think dad is seeing another woman." And you don't need to blackmail your dad, just tell your mom directly. She is your mom and you don't need to keep secrets from her.
2006-09-06 08:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lorrane 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋