I do sometimes but, if they don't want to know, I won't tell them unless they ask. If you disrespect me, I do not have time for you if you start preaching or want to argue the point. I really am a nice guy. Just don't have time for stupids!
2006-09-06 08:00:13 · 15 answers · asked by justincausejustintime 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The reason why I ask this is because I am gay, and people couldn't tell if I was. They ask about my girlfriend(they assume that I have one) I tell them that I am gay and they look at me with blank eyes not knowing what to say next. It bugs me to see people like that and assume that I am straight. It is real conversation stopper but, they work up the courage to ask later on but, it is filled with really stupid pre-assumed questions.
2006-09-06 08:16:42 · update #1
The reason why I ask this is because I am gay, and people couldn't tell if I was. They ask about my girlfriend(they assume that I have one) I tell them that I am gay and they look at me with blank eyes not knowing what to say next. It bugs me to see people like that and assume that I am straight. It is a real conversation stopper but, they work up the courage to ask later on but, it is filled with really stupid pre-assumed questions.
2006-09-06 08:18:00 · update #2
Okay, I have to make assumptions here, and I apologize if I'm off the mark. I'm assuming by the nature of your question that you have some "other than the majority" sexual orientation. I.e., you are likely not heterosexual, but gay, lesbian, or transgendered.
My opinion is that if someone wouldn't ask a question of a run of the mill heterosexual, they should not ask it of you. If you would never hear a comment like "Since you are straight, maybe you've just never had any really GOOD gay sex!" then you should never hear its opposite. If you wouldn't ask someone when they first realized they were attracted to members of the opposite sex, then it's also not appropriate to ask them when they first realized they were attracted to their own sex.
If people are prying, tell them to buzz off. Usually people only pry about such things for the precise reason that they HAVE an agenda they want to push on you. Don't let them.
Now, if you have some other sexual interest that you wear on your sleeve (i.e., heavily into some type of fetish) then you have every right to wear whatever you wish on your sleeve. But you certainly can expect to draw questions and comments if you're wearing a t-shirt that says "slave" on it. Not that anyone should be rude, but you can't expect everyone to ignore it either...you're inviting discussion.
I don't have time for stupids either. I always find it unbearable to be asked questions that are no one's business or that are clearly pointed at that agenda I mentioned.
2006-09-06 08:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by CuteWriter 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I work with around 500 new staff every year and im one of the first person they deal with and yeah i do get asked if im gay (which i am) . I dont go around shouting it from the rooftops or anything , sometimes the way the ask can have a malice undertone, But the majority of the time its just people being curious . So i would have to say no(ish) , it does sometime annoy me but not on the whole.
2006-09-06 15:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by alex 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask you why you make an issue of it? Being Gay does not define you in any way. IF you do not have a girlfriend, why not just say, "I don't have one." ? I can see stating "I am Gay," if they continue to push, as in.."I know this great girl...." , but unless it is an issue, why make it one. I, for one, am gay, I feel no need to tell everyone or anyone unless it needs to be known. I ask no one what they do in the bedroom, for I just don't care..the only people I am going to want to know about are those that interest me puriently. Good luck
2006-09-06 15:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are a nice guy... make it easier on a person who is conversing with you. If what you are saying is a conversation-stopper, it makes them uncomfortable. If they are rude and stupid, maybe they deserve it or worse.
So can't you just preamble, like say, "I don't have a girlfriend." Pause. "I don't go out with girls, I like guys."
2006-09-06 15:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ren Hoek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am straight & take it as a complement. I have several gay family members & a transgender friend. If someone turns into a jerk about it, I will defend my loved ones with all I have in me.
2006-09-06 15:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by ladytc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer to the "girlfriend" question is..."Yes I've been with someone for years" Any farther pushing gets the "He and I have been together for going on 7 years now" and if they are uncomfortable with that...they kept pushing and asked.
2006-09-06 15:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I do, but I agree with you. I don't say anything unless I am asked. There's no need to volunteer information you're not asked for.
2006-09-06 15:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would they question your sexuality in the first place? If you are gay and trying to act straight,then you are only deceiving yourself.
2006-09-06 15:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah people like that are pretty anoying but you should just ignore them.
2006-09-06 15:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Adam G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind if people question me. I just tell them the truth.
2006-09-06 15:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Scully 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋