We always made very passionate love, Slow and easy. Now after 11 years of marriage she wants me to tie her up, spank her, share her with other men (our neighbor), let our dog lick her, and take pictures to post on the internet!
What should I do?
2006-09-06 07:55:25 · 58 answers · asked by she is killing me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a gut feeling already, trust your instincts. You already know what needs to be done, so just do it!
2006-09-07 00:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by A 37 year old male 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should only do what your comfortable with at first. It's almost like building blocks. Try the S & M first. Then see where it goes from there. Most of all be honest with each other. Be sure to talk about rules before you bring anyone else in to the equation. Also, this is a big step....it's not something you can take back. Once you have ventured out than you can't ever go back to how it was before. I'm not saying you can't stop.....but you can't ever say, yeah...I've never done that. Be sure to at least discuss this with her. You want her to feel that you are there for her and her best friend no matter what the situtation. Again, Most of all be HONEST with each other.
2006-09-06 08:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself is that what you want? After being married for 11 years it's understandably she wants to try something different in the bedroom. But my believes are what ever you do in it should be just between you two. Sharing your wife with another person will only cause problems. Also taking pictures and putting them in the Internet is not a good thing. What if a family member or worst if you have kid's they look at them in the website. Think about the consequences not just the pleasure. I wish you all the best!!
2006-09-06 08:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She wants a change, something new something kinky. I think she is saying all of these things to see what you might say and to find out what you are into. Embrace it and don't run from it. Talk with her and see if the two of you can reach some common ground and find something you both like. This could be a phase or this could make your love life better then before. If you run from it, she could venture onwards on her own and you could end up losing her. The same could happen too if you do not set boundaries when the two of you try something new. So be careful...
2006-09-06 08:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to experiment with rough sex and toys and stuff go for it but i would draw the line with the dog , the neighbor and the internet that there is a little off the wall
2006-09-06 07:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UM OK...the rough sex part is cool...but I would be suspicious where it is coming from. Did she go out and get some rough sex? Now thinks it would be good from you? After 11 years and no sign and just a sudden change I would question it. As for the dog...that's sick and you're sick if you consider it. Hello bestiality? SICK SICK SICK. And the neighbor...well maybe that's where she learned about liking the rough sex...
sounds like you have a problem buddy
2006-09-06 09:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♡LiL♥Kitten♡ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you comfortable. It all sounds pretty normal until you get to the neighbor and the dog and the Internet. She may be wanting to try some new things and that is what keeps the spice in long term relationships.
2006-09-06 08:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by btdt65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find a compromise in the middle. I woudl shy away from the dog thing, thats' for sure and probably the neighbor sharing, but she possibly can be satiated with the spanking and tying up.
2006-09-06 07:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIve it to her, be happy she is coming to you for it! Enjoy your wife I dont know about the dog licking but everyone has there own sexual fantasies. After 11 yrs of marriage congratulations on that cuz its like people just arent staying married like they use to. But be happy shes coming to you about these new sexual fulfillments and not exploring elsewhere. And be happy your the one that she wants to do these things with and you can please her, shes wanting to include you if shes allowing you to know about these fantasies. Make her feel sexy & loved everyone has there points where they need that once in a while and your marriage will probly last alot of years to come! Enjoy your wife!!
2006-09-06 08:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 12 1/2 years, and about three years ago I started craving rough sex, so I can totally relate to your wife, I don't know about the dog licking that's sounds a little too freaky, but to each his own. But back to the rough sex issue, go with it, you may find out that you like it too, it worked out for my husband and I, he found out that he liked giving it to me hard and rough.
2006-09-06 08:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Freckles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness! who your wife been talking to?...it sounds as if she has become erotic/erratic, and the dog thing...that's a bit extreme, animals with animals, not animals with humans, this is a no, no...regarding the neighbor i would think the neighbor needs to have a say in this matter, but if she really wants to be tied up, and spanked go ahead, and make her day, as long as no one gets hurt.
2006-09-06 08:26:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋