I'd like to stay on friendly terms with my ex but shes making it difficult, any suggestion
2006-09-06 07:22:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
would you want to stay behind?
think about it...mum is going away to a great warm country and leaving you behind......
take her with you
2006-09-06 07:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by thumberlina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason she is giving you for not wanting to spend time with her dad? If so, is it a good reason mom? You write the youngest daughter so I'm assuming there is at least one other sibling. Talk to the older sibling(s) & ask why the youngest doesn't want to go. If only to keep peace, maybe there is an alternate relative she can stay with for at least some of the time you will be away. Get your ex involved with the decision of whether she stays with him the whole time or not - he may have a relative she may be willing to stay with. This kind of situation is sooo not easy! Take a deep breath & do your best - it is all you can ask of yourself. Good Luck & God Bless
2006-09-06 14:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take her with you? Two weeks is a long time to be separated for a young daughter.
Why does she not want to stay with her dad? Have you checked what is causing her concern? Not usual for children not to want to spend time with another parent?? How can your daughter be making it difficult for you??
I really think there may be issues you need to check on. Your daughter's feelings are the most important...not your ex's or yours in the short term (not trying to sound mean about it).
Never miss out on any chance to share special moments (including holidays) with your daughter. They will always be your best memories.
Hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-06 16:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you suspect something that is not natural, I'd tell the child she will stay with her Dad for the 2 weeks. Depending on her age, you might ask her the reasons she does not wish to stay with him. Something could have happened between them that was not healthy in her mind. I'd certainly look into this situation.
2006-09-06 14:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by skyeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should ask your daughter why there could be a valad reason why she doesn't want to go to her dads! but if theres no reason explain the situation to your ex and see if he has any suggestions even if she just stays there for a week then stayed at a friend or family members for the other !
2006-09-06 17:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 ex husbands and 6 dogs, 4 horses and a parrot, and all live on a boat.
Tell her she can stay home.
Maybe take her with you.
Leave her with her Grandparents -
on either side
.
2006-09-06 14:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Scooby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Find out if reason could be many
2. Is this the first time you will be away from her out of UK since break up. She could think you not coming back.
3. Will she be away from her school environment/friends.
4. Make sure she can contact you via email or leave message on mobile
2006-09-06 14:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by vmaddams 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say there isn't much you can do, you could find someone else to look after her. If you force her then it will cause more problems whilst you are away and when you are back. As for her father he will need to understand that it's not your choice and he can always try to arrange to see her during your trip.
Alternativly you could try to bribe her to agree to stay with him. Most kids will do anything in exchange for something they want.
2006-09-06 14:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by earthangel_ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work out whether shes being difficult because shes upset youre going away or because she doesnt want to stay with her dad, perhaps theres something her dad does that she doesnt like?
Either way I wouldnt force my daughters to stay with anyone they didnt want to.
You dont say how old she is.
2006-09-06 14:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to find out why she doesn't want to stay with her dad. It's not a debate between you and your ex, it's what is wrong with staying with him. I hope this works out for you. Good luck.
2006-09-06 14:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your "youngest daughter." If she doesn't listen to you, perhaps, does she look up to an older sibling who could be a role model for her, convince her, and support her? If this doesn't work, there must be a reason she's fussing like this. Don't force her if she doesn't want to do it.
2006-09-09 17:23:59 · answer #11 · answered by Angie B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋