I don't know if it's a good idea for married couples to take seperate vacations even if it is with same sex friends. He loves golf but I'm not comfortable about him playing in Vegas! Am I being immature or insecure?
2006-09-06 07:08:05 · 26 answers · asked by liberalthinktank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All relationships should be based on TRUST.
But we are humans and we always worry that something could happen. Feeling insecure is normal when you are in love, just the thought of losing the person you love makes you sick.
Let him go and don't think any bad things.
Enjoy your time alone and do things that you want.
Look at this as a vacation for you - reading, shopping, lazy nights in front of the TV. Sounds so good.
2006-09-06 07:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by pipilota75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Immature and Insecure ... !
Just because it's Vegas it doesn't mean he's going to go out and get laid by the first hot stripper that gives him head ... you should trust your husband .. and want him to have a good time.
If he's going with friends .. to play golf .. I don't see the big deal .. the more you trust each other the more you will learn to deal with stuff like this .. let him go .. if he f*cks up or you "hear" stories then you know you can't trust him ... don't assume he will do bad things .. that will only make him feel like you don't trust him and you don't truly love him.
2006-09-06 07:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah your being insecure! I mean most healthy relationships are like this 3 people involved!
1 yourself
2. himself
3. combined together as one!
remember having a partner is a bonus in your life if you feel like your not a bonus in his life well then time to find a way to be...
and vice verse...
also key factors for a healthy relationship are as follows
communication
trust
itimency
it does suck when your away from your lover but if you don't give them that freedom of an indiviuality it will only get worse and he will run off behind your back to do just like kids do to parents when they say they can't...
it the perfect dream world our men would stay by our sides at all times! butthat would get a little annoying don't you think?
so let him go have some fun and plan a girls night out too! great time for that!
and a girl vaca! why not!
and then ask him where he is taking you!!!! :) always a curve ball with us ladies!!!
:)
Mad luv
Good luck
2006-09-06 07:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem here is that you waited until now to evaluate the security of your relationship with your husband. If you would have established this earlier you would have no issues about him going to Vegas. If he is going to be unfaithful to you, I doubt that he would wait until he went there to do it. Or perhaps you have an issue with him going to see a strip show- That is something that you should have discussed long ago. Ever think that he might not be comfortable with you being at home alone? Well certainly not- He knows that you aren't going to mess around.. unless you are the type to mess around which would explain why you are nervous about him.
2006-09-06 07:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're being both. Plus, that should tell you how you feel about your marriage. You need to learn to let him do what he wants to do. If he loves you nothing will happen like think might. If he doesn't you'll be hurt but better off not living a lie. Gotta look at life as though the glass is half full.
2006-09-06 07:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Justin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you feel different if you where going on vacation with your girlfriends the same weekend?? Trust is the main factor here. Maybe take that weekend to just do things for you. Go to the Spa, rent chick flicks, go out to dinner with friends or do something that makes you feel good.
2006-09-06 07:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by hothissom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what the boundaries of your relationship are and stick to them. If you don't find it acceptable, then it is not. If he is just going to play golf, why does it have to be in Vegas, and why can't you go too? If something doesn't feel fight, it probably isn't
2006-09-06 07:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by rchbrk6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each president is criticized for taking day off, yet it is this kind of misnomer. basically because he's taking area in golf does no longer mean he's not operating. he's discussing significant themes with is golf friends and is in consistent contact with others with the help of cutting-edge communications. no one, no longer even the president can artwork 24/7. shop in ideas, the president may be taking area in golf, yet he's not 'off the clock,' like many people.
2016-11-25 00:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time I saw some guys here at our local casino boat with
beautiful golf clubs in their trunk. Their wives thought they were
"playing golf." Instead they were throwing dice and playing
blackjack, and you know "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas."
2006-09-06 07:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might all boil down to trust, but in this day and age, who can we really trust.
So if you're not comfortable with it, just tell him so and ask for details about the hotel he will be staying in as well as where he will be playing his golf.
It all boils down to communication.
He doesn't have to report to you all his movements but that doesn't mean you have no right (as a wife) to be able to contact him whenever you need to.
2006-09-06 07:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋