my father said to me
join in the army is time to you to become a man
I have 527 days on duty but I believe to become a man
you don't need to become a soldier
there is nothing honorable or glorious to kill other human being
for be a man you need to work hard for your family
and your country..
I am wrong?
2006-09-06 07:07:00 · 17 answers · asked by Danny 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
The world is full of strong responsible men who have never been soldiers.
It's your life & you are the only one who can/should live it.
2006-09-06 08:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the USAF nearly 19 years. Lots of interesting jobs.
Here's something I've learned:
1. Being in the military doesn't make you a man
2. Harming someone else doesn't make you a man
3. Striving for honor and glory doesn't make you a man
The main difference between a boy and a man (or any child and adult) isn't age or life experience, but how you think. Some people might effectivley be adult at age 14 while others may never reach adulthood, no matter how long they live.
You've stated your belief pertaining to your father's statement. The point you realize military service and killing don't make a boy into a man, you've become a man.
But maybe your father was right, in a sense. He didn't say to kill, he just said to join the Army, right? Maybe you needed to join to finally realize the truth and become a man through enlightenment, not violence.
2006-09-06 19:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by Adashi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you believe being a man is.
The "right" way to be a man will differ greatly from culture to country to time period.
You equal soldier to killing people. To others, being a soldier means sacrificing their life to defend family and or country. To them that is being a man.
Perception is everything, Perception is your reality. This is why so many people disagree. Because so many people's perception of reality is different.
2006-09-06 14:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by elliott 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You don't need to kill people to be a man. If it's not for you, get out when you are able. You can still lead an honorable, non-military life.
2006-09-06 14:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the service to proove you are a man, your father has a problem with what he considers manliness. He is probably just trying to justify what he thought made him a man.
2006-09-06 14:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a real man is born that way. You are either a woman or a man, female or male. If you change your genitals, your birth certificate says otherwise. There are no inbetweens. You are a man regardless. So what he is talking about is a foolish pride, handed from generation, to generation.
2006-09-06 14:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by really???? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's the only way, but I'm sure you've grown and become an adult. Too bad it wasn't, for what you said, the way you would have chosen if you had had the opportunity.
I hope you'll be well.
2006-09-06 14:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone defines being a "man" differently. You have defined that for yourself already. This is a good thing, some people never figure it out for themselves. Good for you!
2006-09-06 15:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Brooke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not rong but probly in your fathers days thats what most boys done, but times have changed and now we just use computers to blow other countries up
2006-09-06 14:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have obviously not yet become a man as you have obviously
missed the entire point of being in the military...
The vast majority of boys who join the army come out as men
so there is hope for you yet...
2006-09-06 14:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋