My fiancee' constantly gropes on me and tries to touch my female parts constantly, and every other part he can get to!! We have been together for 6 years and are supposed to get married this year. I have moved in with him and he said that would change once we live together, because I would be around him all of the time. No change, it has gotten worse. Our sex is great, but he is taking the fun out of it for me. It is getting to the point where I look for excuses not to. I don't want to surprise him anymore with little things i like doing for him. I've tried to approach him on it, and he says.. hey, you should be happy that I want you that much. I love my stuff so much and think you are the most beautiful in the world. What ever happened to self-control and respecting the others private space? Here is a kicker for ya, we are 50 yrs. old!!! I have also tried to sit down and explain to him that I am going through menopause and have an 11 yr old which goes to school in another state.
2006-09-06 06:50:19 · 25 answers · asked by sherwoodangel1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that if it bothers you and you have told him this, then yes it is highly disrespectful. It is good that you are having these thoughts now before you marry him. Maybe you really need to have some time away from him(and him from you), so you can really think this through, and maybe some time away from you will make him understand how serious you are about the situation.
2006-09-06 06:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by sclay95843 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you need to work on being in the mood for that sort of thing at the same time as a couple. Without knowing either of your histories, though, it's difficult to give advice. Anyway, that was my 2-cents! I Hope this gives something to think about anyway. For sure, if you have asked him to stop under no uncertain terms, he should and I'll bet he'd gladly do it willingly in order to keep you and not lose you.
2006-09-06 07:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Linda J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have latched onto what used to be the world's only "50 year old virgin" and he is trying to make up for lost time.
As long as he doesn't grope you while you are sitting on a public bus or standing in a department store disrespect doesn't figure in as part of it.
Be happy for who you have. He will calm down and realize that you are setting limits not stopping all the fun.
2006-09-06 06:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What is disrespectful is not the touching (or not touching), but that you have expressed a request that he observe limits of yours, and he has refused.
I don't think the menopause or the 11yr old have anything to do with anything. I think the issue in your relationship is whether he respects your boundaries and your feelings--or not. I would suggest that you emphatically but calmly say to him, "I am going once again to ask that you not grope on me without checking in whether I want you to or not. That's a limit I'm setting on you." And if he is the right one for you, he can respect a limit.
2006-09-06 06:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by snowbaal 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think of you're wrong approximately those boys' sexual orientation. gay adult males do no longer grope ladies. i think of somebody's having a splash relaxing at your cost! do exactly no longer carry close out with those pervs! (as properly, the expression is "queer as a three-dollar bill." There fairly are 2 dollar costs and that they don't seem to be gay!)
2016-10-14 09:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by canevazzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to ask yourself are you really 100% in love with him? If you are, then great but just let him know nicely that you want some respect and you want him to appreciate your body and not take it for granted. Now me, I've longed for my husband to touch me that way for 14 years and I've actually cried in bed several times over it. Enjoy the love he gives you as much as possible cuz it could be the complete opposite. I'm jealous.
2006-09-06 06:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to let him know this is really bothering you and it has to stop. Tell him you love him and that it is ok for the bedroom but you cant be grabbed all the time. You have to let him know how much it bothers you and that it is not him but tell him what you are going through. He will understand you just have to make him understand good luck friend..... You go girl oh and menopause sucks!!!!
2006-09-06 06:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SOUNDS LIKE YOU TWO NEED TO HAVE A SERIOUS HEART TO HEART , AND SOME THINGS NEED TO CHANGE , OR THERE WONT BE ANY HONEY MOON , MUCH LESS A WEDDING !...THIS NEEDS TO BE DEALT WITH RIGHT AWAY , BEFORE YA GET TO THE MARRIAGE , OR YOU COULD BE SETTING YOURSELVES UP FOR A BAD DIVORCE IN THE NEAR FUTURE !........SOME PEOPLE FIND OUT WHAT THEY LIKE , AND DONT LIKE LATER ON , AND THAT THEY REALLY ARE NOT AS COMPATIBLE AS THEY ONCE THOUGHT THEY WERE...YOU TWO HAVE SOME DECISIONS TO MAKE , AND SOME SERIOUS THINKING TO DO...GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE.........GR1M
2006-09-06 06:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by (\ G®1M R34|Dê® /) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable you need to put a stop to it. If he will not stop then maybe you should take another look at the man you are marrying. He is not respecting you and your wishes...after marriage don't you think it might get worse.
2006-09-06 06:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by paganmom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's a blinking pervert who has no respect for you at all. How about if you grab for his wallet all the time? He wants sex, tell him you want the money. That's all you want, just his money...see how he likes having the tables turned. I'm sorry you're with this guy and hope he grows up soon.
2006-09-06 06:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋