My and my b/f have been together for 2yrs.This is my first relationship with another guy, and my longest relationship to date. So I am learning as I go. He has been in previous relationships, and was with his exboyfriend for almost 4yrs on and off. So he has more experience in this than I have.We seem to argue easily about stupid things, like we'll disagree on something, and he just takes it way too serious. I love him, so I try to avoid arguements, and I do a good job at it. My problem is that he has caught me on chatlines a few times being very expletive about how I was looking for someone to do sexual things with. The thing is that I have been on chatlines all of my life, and I havent ever met up with anyone. I get off on just the dirty talk. I tried to explain this to him, but I feel he thinks that I am actually trying to meet up with someone. We have both lied to each other throughout our relationship, but I dont think that he has been unfaithful, and I know I havent. This has taken its toll on our relationship, and now I think he holds resentment. How do I fix the damage I have done? I really want to be with this person, and I cant see myself w/o him. We get along when we do things, but we have trouble communicating about our relationship, so we each avoid talking about it. We recently went on a 3day vacation and I we had the best time of our lives, everything was great and we both enjoyed our company. It felt like old times.
2006-09-06 06:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you want to keep him it is is easy. You have to prove to him he is more important than the chatlines. Get off the chatlines fo rgood. Delete the accounts, don't set up new ones. Forget about the other hot gay men out there and remember who you are with. Stop talking to others and talk to him. Go in and make love to him, talk dirty to him.
You already stated while on vacation and no doubt away from the chatlines you two had the time of your life. Well, go have teh time of your life, and leave the chatlines alone.
2006-09-06 06:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are lying to yourself. If you are online--no matter what you are doing--and you are trying to "get off" then you are being unfaithful to your partner. Own it like a real man and apologize. Maybe if you are lucky, he will forgive you. Also, I know it's a cliche, but ask God with a genuine heart for His guidance and He will give it to you---God gives the best relationships ever:)
2006-09-06 06:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some day you are going to find someone on those chat lines and get so curious ect that you WILL meet them. I don't blame your bf at all. What you are doing is SO disrespectful to him! Sounds to me like you are addicted. Get help if you can't stay away from those lines.
2006-09-06 10:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you let him join in with you on the chat lines?and everyone argues that is normal if you wouldnt be arguing with him youd be with someone eles thats gonna argue noone is perfect
2006-09-06 06:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by happy-go-lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find a councilor to help the two of you communicate better.
2006-09-06 07:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it. It is the best thing that could have happened to you.
2006-09-06 06:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by sweedima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
Leviticus 20:13
2006-09-06 06:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
what's more important?
him or the chat sites?
give up your fetish- or better yet- include him in it. you both go on the sites together, and have some nice dirtytalk togetherness.
2006-09-06 07:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Fancy Pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will no longer go on those chat sites.
2006-09-06 06:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what don't, leave him and find God.
2006-09-06 06:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by joy-ann 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋