Should i or shouldn't i have the baby?

Question

I'm 15 years old and started sleeping with my boyfriend, i missed a period and took a pregnancy test and it came out positive, what should i do? i'm taking my GCSE's in June next year and a baby would probably take up all my time as my mum refuses to look after it, if you've had the same problem, have you kept the baby and had problems or not kept it and been perfectly happy? And how should i tell my mum? please help

Answer 1

Well you decided to have sex knowing that a result of having sex is getting pregnant. If you thought that you were adult enough to have sex then you better step up and be an adult and raise your child. You're going to have a hard life ahead of you but you are doing the right thing by being a parent to your child. And not just getting an abortion or giving it up. The last 2 options I believe is taking the easy way out. You made you choice to have sex now you have to deal with the results. BTW make sure your boyfriend helps you with your child in every possible way (financially, watching his child, etc) You are not the only one that has to shoulder the wieght of having a baby.

Answer 2

You can look at all these answers on what other people think you should do, but what do YOU want to do? I'm 19 and I have a 3 month old. I had the opportunity to graduate highschool, and I will still go back to school for nursing. You have to do what is right for you. Getting an abortion is living your whole life with that disappointment, and having a baby changes your whole entire life. A baby does not stop you from living, it just takes up most of your time. You can still take classes and finish school with a baby. If you do not feel financially stable, I'm sure there are places nearby that will help you out. Adoptions ia also a wonderful option.This is your decision- any path you take will have consequences, which way do you want to live?? Good luck, best wishes! Look deep inside your heart.

Answer 3

My good friend had a baby at 15, and while she had to put a lot of things on hold, she is now 24 and almost done with college to become a shrink.

You made this baby, you decided you were old enough for the responsibilities of sex, and this is one of those responsibilities. Sex is for making babies, not for making you feel good. It will never be for anything more than making a baby.

So now you have made a baby, you're a mother now. You can put the baby up for adoption if you think you cant provide a good life for it, that would be a responsible thing to do, if you cannot decide to do whatever it takes on your end to be a parent. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with that, you're still a child and having to decide to be an adult at this age is not an easy choice, but it is one you can make.

Your mother still has to provide something for you since you're still a minor, although she may not want to provide child support for your new baby, which means you would have to get a job to pay for things, and put school on hold, or homeschool when you're not working and get your GED.

I homeschooled and got my GED at 16, and i have no problem at all getting good work or having good credit or anything like that.

Your possibilities are still endless, they just are presented in different ways.

Answer 4

There's always a way. I love my surprise daughter, but I was in a solid relationship with the man I'm now married to and we're living in our own place. You're right that a baby takes a lot of time (plus a lot of patience). It will likely be a VERY difficult decision, but the best thing for baby will be to give it up for adoption. There will be some tough months ahead, but you won't have the regret of abortion or not being able to provide your child with all that it needs. There are lots of social & government programs out there for helping pregnant teens in many ways. Some searches on Yahoo or Google will likely find the programs near you.
As for your mom, you're probably going to just blurt it. She may be angry, but she'll probably help you get the support you need.

Answer 5

Tell your mom before she finds out from someone else.

Have the baby. You will always regret the abortion.

Give the baby up for adoption. You're too young for the responsibility, and the people who adopt children are usually very well equipped to take care of a baby. If your mother doesn't want to lose contact with her first grandchild, make it an open adoption.

Answer 6

I had my son at 15 years old. It was so much tougher than anyone could ever make you understand. There are so many pros and cons you just have to weigh them for yourself. If abortion is an option for you, you have to be aware that it costs about $400.00 if you do it before the third month. More if you wait. So because of that, you'll have to tell your Mom either way. She'll love you no matter what, so just tell her. You need her now more than ever. Good luck! And don't let ANYONE tell you you can't have an abortion. It's your body and your choice!!

Answer 7

i am 28 years old and i had my baby 2 years ago until this day i wish i had waited until i was at least 30 years old. trust me when i tell you you life stops when you have this baby because in the mornings when you get up you do not have to get one person dressed you must dress 2 people. when your child is sick mommy must stay home. mommy must stay at the hospital. oh and if dad is not there then you can forget about you life is through and being your first you do not want anyone to keep your child other than you or the dad. also you want more for your child . if you carry the child full tern you are going to get attached because you this baby bond. i am not going to tell you to keep it or get rid of it. i am telling you from experience if you need any more info email me

Answer 8

I was 16 when I got pregnant for the first time, And don't get me wrong I love my daughter to death, but If i could do it all over again I would of had an abortion. Reason being is that i had to drop out of school and get a job, I didn't have any help from my family or the baby's father, he took off after I told him I was pregnant. Now I'm 24 and trying to get my GED. It's hard after being out of school for 9 years, trying to remember all that stuff. But it is up to you, It's your body and your chose.

Answer 9

Keep in mind that everything in life happens for a reason! This child has every right to live its life to the fullest. If you feel you can't handle a child give it up for adoption. Many couples can NOT have children on their own. I am 17 and expecting my first. I went in the kitchen one day and told my parents I had something I wanted to tell them. My boyfriend and I sat down and told them we were pregnant. They were very shocked at first, but we explained everything to them and they were happy to be grandparents!

Answer 10

You should NOT have an abortion. Its not your baby's fault that you created it. If you dont feel that you can take care of it then give it up for adoption. Otherwise you can keep it yourself. You can say now that your mom wont help but you dont know that for sure. You should talk to her about it, I mean you cant hide it forever, she's going to find out and better sooner than later. Like I said though, if you dont feel you can keep the baby you should give it up for adoption, there are a ton of couples out there who want a baby badly that cant have one themselves. But DONT abort your baby!