At 13 I was in a horrible ralationship. He would scream at me, yell in my face, even beat me at times. He got really drunk one night and I was forced to do what he wanted. I have lived with that ever since. I rarely show my feelings, and I keep everything in side. My boyfriend hates how I never tell him thing's it's just I cant seem to get over my fears of that bad relationship coming back again!
2006-09-06 06:06:52 · 9 answers · asked by Colie 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
no you are entitled to think about your past but you have to let go and see that it is the past and will destroy your future if u let it. love yourself i know its old cliche but soooooo true. We dont have to have men to make ourselves feel good. we have to feel good about ourselves and will hopefully make good relationships because of it. love and best wishes
2006-09-06 06:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by rosyreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with living in the past is that you miss out on all the good things about the present.
You seem to have a nice guy who cares enough about you and your feelings to want to hear about them. If you don't resolve your issues from the past, you're going to lose that.
Get counseling. Get it to heal yourself and be happier(you do want to be happy, right?), and get it so that you can enjoy this new, seemingly good relationship, and get it so that your boyfriend can benefit from really knowing the good person you are. Also, get it so that you don't put yourself in the same situation again. After a while of going by yourself, having your boyfriend come along might help him understand why you are the way you are and enable him to help you change your perception of relationships.
You deserve to be happy. Go out and get that for yourself.
2006-09-06 13:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it takes time but remember he is not the same guy and doesn't deserve to be treated that way. It is sad that some ppl can be so unfair but if you want to be in a relationship you have to give your new guy a fair chance otherwise you may never really feel the love he has to offer. Take baby steps...talk to him about little things or whatever....let him earn your trust but give him a chance....
You deserve it and so does he. All the best.
2006-09-06 13:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by rainsparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to go get counseling. It will be very hard for you to have anything resembling a healthy relationship until you deal with your past. Sorry it's so cliché, but it's true. You went through some awful things at a very young age, and you owe it to yourself to take it seriously and deal with it head on. Honestly it sounds like you shouldn't even be in a relationship now. I don't know how old you are, but if your boyfriend loves you he will let you get help and agree to let you grow and learn slowly. If he can't deal with that, please try to concentrate on yourself, by yourself. It will pay off in your future relationships and the way that you communicate with people. Good luck to you!
2006-09-06 13:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your current boyfriend is nice tell him everything and try to forget this by not thinking about it and it will go away it might take 4 to 5 months but it will I assure you that stay happy and have funn. Be strong and donk give a **** about that asshole he is in the past
2006-09-06 13:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by ali_teror 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, seek counciling. You may be repeating mistakes you don't have to because you adopted bad coping strategies for that one boyfriend.
2006-09-06 13:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by adphllps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youll open up to him when your ready. You just have to realize that hes not the same guy you were with before. Maybe you should try explaining to him why your finding it hard to open up. that could help
2006-09-06 13:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by gingersnappz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its anew boy friend tell him if its the old one leave his *** and come to me for protection but i have a gf and will not comfort you in love i have a friend that will his name is griff
2006-09-06 13:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeahhh....ur gonna fcuk this guy over. dump him now to save him from further pain. please.
2006-09-06 13:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋