what can i do?
2006-09-06 05:51:57 · 18 answers · asked by fatrobertbrush 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I used to be...It was painful.
...What did I do?..
I know there was no "quick solution".
...It's a personality thing or the way a brain fires off signals.
---This is going to sound stupid and impossible...but I can tell you it worked me into becoming much more spontanious, gregarious and engaging... It evolved, and now I'm happy to freely interact with everyone!
My advice is to start by being reckless around others in what you think and say... Be a good listener...and then, just throw all thoughts of disaproval to the wind and shoot out any crazy idea that comes to mind. If they end up rejecting you...That's THEIR loss! THEY should be the ones to loosen up and accept your mind for what new things it can present them with...no matter HOW crazy! It will be weird, but do it...Take the offroad and enjoy the bump and grind you create! Force yourself to shake things up! The world NEEDS it...and ultimately, it will be appreciated!
Be YOU...because that loose cannon is inside you and all of us... That's the way your going to break out of the shell and LIVE!!
2006-09-06 05:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from another person who used to be shy, it is because you are so worried about what others will think of you that you say nothing instead of gambling that what you have to contribute to the conversation will be worthwhile, and you won't be made fun of. Stop being afraid that others will think badly of you if you have a comment or suggestion. Don't be afraid to let loose and have fun. Just say to yourself over and over, it aint that important, it aint that important. The view you have of yourself is much more important than what others think. It is a little scary at first, but it soon becomes a habit to speak your mind, introduce yourself, have fun and not be so concerned about your "image".
Good luck
2006-09-06 06:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look man. Stop asking yourself that. You'll always be shy if you hide yourself behind a keyboard. There's a whole world out there full of gorgeous and not so gorgeous women, who are dying to meet you. Women love a shy guy. Trust me I was shy!
2006-09-06 05:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Hacker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget all the other answers.... they are no help.. try joining a group, let your guard down with people and try to just be yourself. If you worry about it too much then you are just going to seem akward with people... just relax and have fun.. join a league, club, or some sort of town activity to make friends... the more friends u make the less shy u will be .
2006-09-06 05:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also shy, but I try to overcome that.I think its because im used yo realising i'm shy...and sometimes when i'm in a place where no one knows me i become really bold/ try to talk to people when you don't need it like talking to shop assuistants or asking the way...they don't know you
2006-09-06 06:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by chelsy1308 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with changing small little things in your life, like habits. It could help you to see things differently. Eventually, it could help you to see yourself differently, not just as a shy guy.
2006-09-06 06:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by cmilja m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There does seem to be genetic (i.e Nature in the Nature vs Nurture debate) reasons that people have personality types.
It's not an excuse though, you just need to work at it a bit more. Try and engage with people inconversation and be genuine with them... practice, practice, practice...
2006-09-06 06:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find shy people are incredibally self centred. their shyness stems from one single though "what will they think of ME" and becasue you pass judgement on yourself you feel that other people are going to pass the same judgements on you as you do. Get over it, stop worrying about what other people think and worry about what YOU think of YOURSELF. After you find something you like about yourself embellish on that, get on with life and cherish every moment. Lifes to short to be shy!!! you only live once make yourself some memories!
2006-09-06 05:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by greenhorse8179 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah ur shy..... i know y.......u r shy because u like being that way..... if u dont wanna be shy... u really know what u need to do.... go out and ask the same question openly...i mean to other ppl
2006-09-06 05:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by bindu kiran 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing, you're a p*ssy. Face it. That's like a cat wanting to ba a dog or a man wanting to be a woman. The truth will come out sooner or later so just be yourself... p*ssy.
2006-09-06 05:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋