I am 31 w/o kids I am dating a guy who has 4 kids ..I haven't been in a relationship where the guy has children and actually takes care of them like a real father.. so how do i handle this and bond with them..i dont have much experience in this department
2006-09-06 05:51:35 · 16 answers · asked by aquaris01975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its a lot of hard work especially at first. the first thing you need to do is build trust with them and become their friend first. Find out what they like and hobbies and such and take them places that shows that. Kids are very set in their ways so you need to break the barrier, once that hapens, everyhting else will fall into place and you will start to love them and vice versa. good luck.
2006-09-06 05:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Al Bundy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly you may desire to easily unload him, I understand that your relationship is great and each thing, yet you're patently having doubts or you does not have published this question. If he's hindering your overall performance at college and your financial stability, then it fairly is rather not rather worth it. with regard to the abortion, i'm very against abortion, yet i'm not gonna get into that, yet i think of which you may desire to furnish the toddler and then strongly evaluate adoption, you additionally could make it an open adoption so it is basic to be certain him/her. additionally, in keeping with risk in case you get fortunate you will come across an excellent guy who has each and all of the characteristics of your modern-day boyfriend, yet in addition would be there to help assist you and your newborn, yet it rather is an prolonged shot. rather nevertheless, it is your existence and basically you additionally could make the possibilities to your existence. stable good fortune!! i actually wish each and every thing works out for you.
2016-11-25 00:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by keeven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think after a little time with this guy.it will come natural. You will learn to appreciate his kids the same way as he does. Don't force a relationship with the kids, it should come natural. Remember they may be shy so try to help them come around a little at a time. Good Luck
2006-09-06 05:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a female so it should come natural. No need to try to be what their mother is not, or go above and beyond to be nice to them. Be yourself and the kids will respect you as well as their father.
2006-09-06 05:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch episodes of "The Brady Bunch".....there are some pretty good lessons in them pertaining to your question. My advise: focus on becoming 'friends' with each one of the kids without showing partiality. (Or, partiality if you were to marry and combine as a family) But, be patient as it might take some time depending on the individual......just be yourself. Good Luck!
2006-09-06 06:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it very slowly, you dont want to get too close too the kids until your relationship with the father is serious, and as far as parenting, that will never be your job, just be friendly to them and take an interest in them and what they do.
2006-09-06 05:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all there are certian things that you're going to have to realize.. you're going to have to realize that the kids are ALWAYS going to come before you.. if ever a choice had to be made.. it's going to be them. You also have to understand that you're not their mother, and they're going to treat you like you're not their mother.. It's going to be really hard. I'm not going to kid with you. It's going to be hard.
Be their friends, but don't try too hard. If they tell you that they don't like you.. don't take it to heart.. and NEVER make him choose because it's going to end badly for you.
2006-09-06 05:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to bond with then unless your relationship is at least getting to the point where you're considering marriage.
2006-09-06 05:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest being no different than if you were around your own neices/nephews, assuming you have any; godchildren, friends kids...they all fall in that 'once removed' category.
Just be a good 'aunt', work towards 'step-mom' and go from there.
2006-09-06 06:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, but don't try to be their mother. You can be their friend, but remember you are an authority figure non-the-less. They do have to respect you, but they don't have to like you or even pretend to like you. If the father likes you, chances are they will too.
2006-09-06 05:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋