My son is somewhat shy and doesn't make friends very well. He's a very nice little boy, but isn't aggessive like most boys. Any suggestions on what to do to help him? Also, he started soccer and the coaches son was standing behind him and grabbed his neck for no reason, but my son just stood there and didn't say anything. I looked up and saw what the other boy was doing and stopped it immediately, but by then my son was embarrassed and hurt. My son was minding his own business...
Any suggestions to make him stronger or at least stick up for himself. He does have a father, but he works constantly, so he's not around much. It's usually just me, his 6 year old sister and him.
Please be nice when answering, no jerks or mean answers. Thank you to all who answer!
2006-09-06 05:46:00 · 14 answers · asked by toobusy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was exactly like that when I was younger. My parents thought I was having problems or something but I wasn't. I was just shy!! He's probably just introverted (which usually means that he's pretty smart!...I know I am! lol). Don't give it too much thought..as he gets older he'll figure out some way to deal with that kind of stuff. I just ignored the bullies when they picked on me...they lose interest when you don't respond to their crap.
2006-09-06 05:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by kiko 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My 7 year old had bully problems this summer. But we put a stop to it real quick. My son has been taking karate sine he was 4. But he is always afraid to use it. Even during class he loses evertime they spar. I sat him down and told him if the boys start on him use the karate. Never throw the first punch though. If they start it make sure you finish it. They started on him and he definately finished it. I was even there to see it. I was so proud of him! The boys never bothered him again. He went back to class and kicked some butt too. That's all he needed. He's not the shy little boy I had at the beginning of summer.
Get your boy some Karate classes.
2006-09-06 06:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by danadeville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got picked on a lot as a youngster too. I was small, wore glasses an inch thick, and was clumsy. I was strong though for my size and eventually had to start fighting back. Your son will need to do the same. Forget the "fighting isnt right no matter what" BS that doesnt work in the real world.
2006-09-06 05:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by tborelli 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boys went to bed at 8:00 but no later than 8:30.
2016-03-27 00:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the boy into martial arts classes to both defend himself and to increase his physical assertiveness and confidence.
Teach him that defending himself from a bully is NOT going to get him in trouble with you, even if he is sent to the office.
Get in the faces of the bullies, their parents and school staff if applicable and start a paper trail on repeat offenders for future disciplinary action.
2006-09-06 05:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think I'm going to have the same problem with my son. He takes it and takes it and doesn't do anything about it.. I don't want him to go on like that until it's too late and he blows up.
Show him that it's okay to be angry and express your anger with words. If he does something you don't like.. tell him that you don't like it and tell him why.. if you're around and his sister does something that he doesn't like, start there.. start at home. Tell him to tell her that he didn't like it, and not to do it again.
If he starts at home with the people closest to him, it might make it easier to tell strangers and other children that he doesn't like something and to leave him alone.
2006-09-06 05:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kid can be mean. Try a martial arts class, your son does not need to use it, the other kids just need to know he knows something about it. Could be good for his sister, too.
2006-09-06 05:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by Paul K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a former YMCA coach of kids, and a self-defense teacher, he may need some extra one on one with some guys. Also, consider the self-defense or karate...HUGE self-esteem boosters!
2006-09-06 05:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by d2113 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DAMN , THAT SUCKS , I HAVE SEEN ALOT OF THAT WHEN I WAS YOUNGER TOO....AND ITS NO FUN TO GO THROUGH SCHOOOL LIKE THAT , HWEVER , YOU NEED TO LET IT BE...HE WILL START STICKING UP FOR HIMSELF ON HIS OWN..ALL YOU CAN DO , IS ENCOURAGE HIM , AND BUILD UP HIS CONFIDENCE ON THE HOMEFRONT....SCHOOL IS HIS DOMAIN , AND HE NEEDS TO TAKE IT BY HIMSELF , HE WILL GET TIRED OF IT , AND HANDLE IT , TRUST ME....I TOOK CONTROL WHEN I WAS IN THAT POSITION , AND EVENTUALLY HE WILL TOO...JUST KEEP MAKING HIM FEEL CONFIDANT IN EVERYTHING AT HOME , AND THE REST WILL TAKE CARE OF ITSELF...ON ANOTHER NOTE ..THIS COULD ALSO BE AN ISOLATED INCIDENT , AND THE PROBLEM MAY ALREADY BE TAKEN CARE OF...........GOOD LUCK , AND TAKE CARE........GR1M
2006-09-06 05:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by (\ G®1M R34|Dê® /) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the first answer you received, also check into other play groups in your area. A good councilor can help him to learn how to be more out going too. good luck to him...
2006-09-06 05:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by ticonderoga1186 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋