i went back 2 school 2 day, i talked a bit, more than i have ever talked really, is there anything i can do to speed up the process?
2006-09-06 05:45:42 · 12 answers · asked by fatrobertbrush 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Why does everyone assume that shyness is a bad thing, when in fact being shy can be a nice trait to have, most people prefer a shy, not so confident person than a cocky, over confident person.
I was painfully shy when i was younger, and would colour up for the least thing, whether it was bumping into friends unexpectedly, meeting someone for the fist time or in a group conversation when the question was directed at me.
My shyness virtually controlled my life to the point where i would avoid situations or events simply because i was worried that someone i didn't know or someone that was 'better' than me would approach me. All because i was shy and couldn't hold a conversation, or because i wasn't a confident person and believed i was flawed and everyone else in the entire world was 'better' than me.
It wasn't until later on in life that i learnt that even the most confident of people were nervous or afraid in some situations, they were just better at hiding it than me! I have since had many conversations over the years with work colleagues or friends who openly admit that the majority of situations that have made me nervous in the past also made them nervous too, they just appeared confident! I was just too busy worrying about my own feelings to even think what the others in that new situation were feeling.
Therefore my advice to you is dont try to change your personality its fine the way it is, maturity and lifes experiences will help you to become less shy.
A few tips i have learnt that helps with shyness is if you are in a group conversation and you can feel yourself getting nervous just answer the question swiftly and quickly direct the question back to someone else, that way you are taking the attention of yourself and putting it on to someone else. Another one is if you have a good sense of humour dont be afraid to share it, that way people will laugh with you and not at you (as you may think they do). Or maybe try asking the first question when you meet someone new, then while they are answering it will give you time to compose yourself and get ready for the next question.
Try not to answer any question with just a yes or no. You will come across as a much more confident person if you answer 'yes, i am very well thank you' when asked if you are ok or 'No, i would love to but i have already made other arrangements' when asked if you will be at the party on Saturday evening.
But remember what ever the situation, we all come into this world in the same way and will all leave it in the same way, no one is better or worse than anyone some people just think they are, but they are not, everyone is equal!
Most people i talk to don't believe me when i tell them i use to be painfully shy, little do they know i still am i have just learnt to put on a good front!
Good luck and keep smiling!
2006-09-06 07:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by angel1902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it too much...Just take it slow, but do a few things every once and a while that you wouldn't. Be spontaneous. Surprise people. Some people are going to be thrown off by your new attitude toward life now, but don't let any negative feedback stop you. They are just shocked & the new you will grow on them & soon enough you will come out of your shell, and when you do the world will embrace you!
2006-09-06 06:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When meeting someone for the first time just remember they don't know you. It's the perfect time to pretend you are not shy. You could also take an acting or impromptu speaking class to assist you in getting over shyness. Whatever yo do HAVE FUN!!!
2006-09-06 06:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by lorrhill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day just think to yourself that noboby knows that you are shy and don't be scared to say a little more than you usually would - without trying too hard.
Take a day at a time and let people accept you for what you are.
2006-09-06 05:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by babs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "Why be shy, when no one else is?"
And try not to think about being shy or having to think carefully before you engage in convo. Just be yourself, enjoy your friends company and be positive. That will draw others to you.
2006-09-06 05:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- I would just go with it. It will speed itself up naturally if you just keep being friendly to people. Good for you!
2006-09-06 05:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i teel u waht just try to be ur self and don t be some thing u not because that will slow u down there is nothing better than be urself and be how u are
2006-09-06 05:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by toyboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let your personality shine throw. Don't worry about what others think, you're never going to be able to please everyone at all times. Speak your mind and make some more friends.
2006-09-06 05:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was shy at school too. i know its a cliche but just be yourself and it will happen. keep talking more and soon enough you'll be fine! x
2006-09-06 05:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. You're doing fine.
2006-09-06 05:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Spotlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋