my husband went to chat rooms, he says because he has never really usen a computer before. So I saw emails he was writing to this girl saying he wanted to get to know her better bla bla...why if he says he loves me... How I know he was doing because I was the girl he was talking to he does not know it was me and I will never tell him, but why did he want to talk to her so bad. He tells me he loves me and does not need anyone else.. I think that is a form of emotional cheating what do you guys think?
2006-09-06 05:29:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DUMP HIM! DIVORCE HIM! LEAVE HIM! RUN AWAY and NEVER EVER LOOK BACK! Sorry about this - and good luck.
2006-09-06 05:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more ways to use a computer than going to the chat room. Some things our male counterparts tell us when they are cornered sometimes gives us the appearance that we don't have a brain in our head to make commonsense out of things that concern us.
The Internet has given many another form of cheating instead of picking up woman in clubs, grocery stores, gas stations, bars, just to name a few but sometimes this may not be the case.
There is many forms of cheating which can be emotionally and physically but whichever one there is, it will be unacceptable in my relationship or marriage.
By you doing your own detective work you should know the level of the communication between your husband and his mystery woman who happens to be his wife aren't you lucky.
If he is having a emotional relationship with someone it look like its you. Imagine to find out you might be cheating with your own wife do you know how many of us would be lucky to know the details of our husbands affairs just joking.
He tells you he loves you and does not need anyone else he is telling part truths because who he is chatting with is you.
2006-09-06 05:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this.I can tell you that as a man,I am single because I would love to have several women.I don't think it is proper,but it is me. If I had my choice again,I would pick to stay married and never look back.I have been divorced for 20 years and i have been regretting that decision for 20 years. My answer is,men are for the most part uncontrolled in that area.Whether it is insecurities or uncontrolled lust I cannot say. Tell him you know and how you are hurt.Show him.Give it time to soak in.He may never hurt you that way again. Good Luck
2016-03-27 00:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that any kind of intimate discussions with a member of the opposite sex is CHEATING! That is revealing things that you should be telling your partner. What business does a "committed" person have talking to another person of the opposite sex on the computer anyways? Seems like they are looking to cheat or to form another relationship.
Get rid of him honey and the computer!!!
Good luck!
2006-09-06 06:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Encyclopedia Allie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say the girl your husband was talking dirty to was you. Did you set your husband up to talk dirty with you to see if he would cheat? If you did, it's obvious he's still attracted to you. You sought each other out in a different way and it's still working for you both.... Kinda like the Pina colada song.... good luck
2006-09-06 05:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by greene_mamba 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No married person or a person who is in a committed relationship should be in a chatroom. It is the devils playground. Many marriages were broken and made in there. If he/she is in there, they are definitely looking for some attention of some kind
2006-09-06 05:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by ray4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm he has a little problem and u can try to fix it but i would just talk dirty to him more often and then maybe he will stop but until then if its a problem tell him and handle ur bussiness and then yall go form there k k bye
2006-09-06 05:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
come on, let the guy have some fun.
keep in mind that he's married now, so in other words its like being in jail.
its not cheating, he'll probably beat off to it and that's it
2006-09-06 05:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's a rat and yes it is cheating.
2006-09-06 05:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by gel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confiscate his contacts addresses and nick names and fwd them to me at paulisfree04@yahoo.com
I'll evaluate them for you and let you know if they are a threat
2006-09-06 05:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋