Child Support?

Question

My friend has 3 children with his ex-girlfriend. Him and this girl never lived together they just had these children, and since the kids were born he's always been there financially and physically. He would always visit, call them and give them whatever they needed. She never put child support on him and he never put it on himself because he was supporting them. The only thing was that if he wanted to see his children he had to go see them at her house in front of her, it had to be that or nothing at all. He knew it wasnt fair but he wanted to see his kids so he accepted, but now he doesnt anymore bc he wants to spend some time alone with his kids at his house. She never wants to and now for that reason he doesnt give her money because he doesnt think she's being fair. He tells her that he'll give her money if she lets him take the kids out and she says no. If he does put cs on himself, about how much will he pay?and what are the visitation rights?He wants to know everything he should.

Answer 1

get a lawyer

Answer 2

Take her to court and get shared custody. If he has been supporting his children then the court system should let him have visitation rights especially at his own place. As long as he didn't hurt the children in any way or the mother, then I don't see why the court would't let him have his own children to spend time with him alone. I don't know what the mother is thinking, she is an idiot. If he supports the kids, then she should be letting him take his kids on his own so he can spend quality time with them. Good luck to your friend

Answer 3

He needs to get a legal agreement wherein he admits he's the father and that he's willing to pay support. I have a hard time understanding why he thinks he paid support if he hasn't paid a regular child support. Buying the occasional gift or doctor's appointment really isn't support.

With responsibility will come visitation rights. She simply cannot forbid them. Even if he eventually stops paying the support, she can't stop the visitation; the only option left to her is attaching his pay check for the support.

Answer 4

This one is tricky? If he was court ordered to pay support, then he would have every legal right to his kids. He is there father and he does have rights. Look up your state's child support laws and visitation rights. If not he may have to get an attorney to get something in with the courts, that way she cannot say no. Go to your local library and ask for the books on child custody laws and in there should be a chart for you to figure how much he will pay based on his income. Tell him go for shared custody. Good luck!

Answer 5

With three children he will pay approximately 30 - 40 % of his income. it is not a per child fee, it is a percentage of income based on the number of children he has to support.

If he is willing to do this, any judge would grant his equal custody. He could possibly have his kids up to 1/2 the time - so if he is not prepared for that - I wouldn't even take it to court. But if he wants to see his kids on a regular basis autonomously so that he can go and do as he pleases with them - child support and a custody arrangement are the way to go.

Tell him to contact his state's attorney general's office - they have counselors available for just his purpose.

Answer 6

when he goes to court the judge will ask him if he has been paying child support.
It will look bad to the judge when he says he stopped paying.

He needs to reestablish child support and tell the judge I stopped for a while to make the mother let me be with the kids but reestablished it for the kids sake when that didn`t work.

This the judge will understand.

As he has been paying an amount the judge will see that as an amount that he can afford and make that the starting line. Child support is usually based on mathematical formulas. Every state is different.

Answer 7

Your friend is in the same catagory as alot of men (and few women) who have made agreements with the other parent without making it legal thru the courts. It all goes along fine until the have a dissagreement and withholding visits because of money hurts the children who need both parents in their lives. He will have to get a lawyer, she has the upper hand in this situation. my son is in a siimalar situation, and it hurts all of us when his son's mother won't let us see him goog luck

Answer 8

He should get an attorney and give him an evidence and witnesses that they are his children although he did not get married with the mother of his children.He should set an equal right and obligation for raising,loving,caring and financing of the three children.He should get an agreement with his formerly girlfri
end for caring them such as a week with their father and a week with their mother.I think your friend is a responsible father.But why your friend and his formerly girlfriend do not get a formal marriage?If they are married they can raise their children together both of them in a house or apartment.
It is better loving and helping each other and have no adultery.In Islamic teaching adultery is hated by God and someone who does it will get a big sin.

Answer 9

every state is different. He should consult an attorney is your state. I know here in Florida, the law is changing and going back 2years on men that never knew they had kids, and making the time share 50/50, of course the parents need to be mentally stable, but he should seek council. My best wish for your friend and more so the children.

Answer 10

My opinion would be for them to go to court to set up visitation and child support. The court should allow him to see his kids in his house, but he will have to make regular child support payments to her. They will base the child support on his income, I'm not sure what percentage. They have 3 kids so he'll probably have to pay up.

Answer 11

He will pay about 200 a week on three kids. He sounds like the victim but I doubt you know the whole story. The mother probably knows him better than you do and that's why she supervises all visitation.