im 4 months pregnant and me and my babys daddy were having problems he said he loves me and he wants to be part of my baby but he told me he needed some time and i move back to my moms but im dying to go look for him and tell him that i need him i dont know what to think how much is time ? should i wait? should i call him im feelling very down please help me!!!! im crying a river
2006-09-06 05:16:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You must be a teenager.
2006-09-06 05:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by JunAlo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I totally know how you feel. I had drama w/ my baby's dad this weekend. I was crying so hard I couldnt breathe. The way I see it is...appreciate the help that you ARE getting .. like living with your mom is a big help. I live all alone .. you dont want that ... trust me!! Just have some patience. When you do talk to him tell him that it's not fair that he gets time to think while youre in a position where there's nothing to think about: Youre pregnant wether you like it or not. Why should HE get time? You dont.
Good luck.
2006-09-06 05:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. You have to give it time and let him come back by himself. let him know how you feel but If you chase him it will push him away. I was with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and then i got pregnant and he said the same thing. I was so down and sad about everything. i didnt want to hear what anyone had to say unless it was him. I finally let it go after 7 months of us being seperated. I had to learn to love myself and my child more than wanting the father. Now just a couple of days ago....he called me saying he wanted me back and that he loved me and that he wanted to make us a family. God works miracles and in mysterious ways. pray every night honey. Dont stress either cause its bad for the baby. He will come back!! If u want to talk more you can email me at kdboo4u2cherish@msn.com. Good luck hun!!
2006-09-06 05:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by kdboo4u2cherish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey. i am so sorry. this is the absolute worst time a man can do this to a woman. At some point, you are gonna have to realize something. If he is willing to walk away from you at this point in life, he's gonna walk away for even less. Do you really need that future aggravation? You need to be concerned with yourself and your unborn child. Since you said you moved back in with mom, i'm assuming he kept the place where you two are living. I know you feel the need to make excuses for him, but wow.....he actually kicked out his pregnant girlfriend. how supportive is that??? Like someone said in a post before me....when a guy asks for time apart, he never comes back.
2006-09-06 05:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could go on and on about how you should have protected yourself from an evident non-wanted pregnancy, at least unwanted by your boy-friend, but I will refrain from that. Without knowing fwhat your problems consisted of, I'll take a stab in the dark anyway. Advise... Your best bet is to forget about this looser and get on with your life and the preparation of having a child out of wedlock.If he isn't man enough "to step up to the plate" and accept the responsibilities as the father of his child, then he will NEVER make YOU a good husband, nor will he make your child a good father. I would however suggest that after the birth you hire an attorney and file a paternity suite against him, requiring him to pay for all hospital and medical bills. You should also file for child support from him. Be aware, though, that once you do this he will be in you and your childs life from now on, possibly hindering you in any chance of meeting and falling in love with a MAN that will love you and your child, and be willing to accept the both of you as his own. DON'T DRAG THIS OUT! Make a clean break of it and get on with your life!
2006-09-06 05:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call him and try to talk to him. i know exactly how you feel!it hurts when your not with him.when your pregnant you need and want your baby's father their by your side. unfortunately that's not what happened with me.me and my baby's daddy broke up when i was only 2 months pregnant. i cried for about 3 months.now I'm almost 8 months pregnant and we are still broken up.i still cry sometimes. and now he has a girlfriend. i know it sounds bad. lol. that's why if i was you i would talk to him and express how you feel and tell him that you want to be back with him. good luck.please stop crying so much. trust me i know its hard to do but you should try to stop so much because when you cry it stress's you and the baby out. just try to think of pleasant things.
2006-09-06 06:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by stressed&depressed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
defintly call him, but don't turn it into a fight or something that is just going to stress you out. just let him know how much you love him and how much you need him especially now. good luck hun,by the way i know how you feel i went through almost the exact same thing when i was 3 months pregnant, all it took was a call from me, so i have faith that it will work for you. try not to stress over it too much, it's not healthy for baby. hang in there.
2006-09-06 05:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by puppy love 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you should call him you shouldn't have to go through this alone, It's not fair to you or your un-born baby. He needs to realize that he Is not a child and that he needs to grow up, he has responsibilities now to you and your baby. Congrats and I wish you the best and I hope that everything works out for you both.
2006-09-06 05:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by twofroggiesand1princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him but when a guy says they need time its usually forever. How long were you together plays a part too. All you can do is talk to hiim im sorry girl. Best of luck
2006-09-06 05:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by shaylee b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just wait it out. He will come to you when he's ready. IF you stress out now you might lose your baby. Try to focus on getting your self together and be prepared to handle things on your own just in case he don't get his head right and be there for you both.
2006-09-06 05:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait a while dont call too soon give him a little time you should take some too and get yourself together as best you can
2006-09-06 05:22:07 · answer #11 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋