We have been together about 2 years, I love her, but sexually I am just not into her, what do I do?
2006-09-06 05:13:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gosh...i can imagine your state...im sure in two years you have tried everything to get you interested...but the toughest thing is what you will have to do..let go...and don't take any longer for your sake for her sake...after marriage how long will you help yourself from not cheating on her ...and then it'll be you who will be completely in the wrong...you are not alone in this.. i know of people who have gone through this...just gather the courage...talk to her honestly...you never know things may turn around too
2006-09-06 05:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by freedom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats difficult, but the first thing you should do is tell her. She might get upset, but let me tell you the truth stings sometimes but Lies kill so its best to tell her how you feel. You never know if she feels the same, or something may be wrong. Like she has no self esteem, or no skill, even just doesn't know, so the safest way is to bring it to her attention....If you haven't ever cheated on her before think about this, Do you love her?...I mean unconditionally,...cuz I know a lot of women married to men who "don't please" Sometimes a women kinda morphs after being with one man for so long or get too comfortable. But if she doesn't understand, or think its something you just can't live without, and you have told her of course, then maybe you should move on, but don't go sex shopping that could be risky all kind of stuff is flying around, also be ready for consequences when you leave. If you realize you want her back, she might not feel the same. I Hope you Find what you are looking for
Good LUCK be SAFE
2006-09-06 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by vanity_luvs_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not the answer to love. If you love her, this would not be an issue. If you love her, you love all the things about her; despite any sexual discrepencies. If you are waiting to marry her based on how sexually attracted you are to her, poor choice buddy. Be a man, and discover for yourself why you love her. If you find out that all you are after is a little action to edify your love for her, then you are with her for the wrong reason. But if you find out that you can still love her even through this situation, then that is maturity and use that to grow on...and what are you waiting for if this is the answer? Marry the girl.
2006-09-06 05:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a dilema, could it be that you are just use to intercourse being boring and always the same. That could be and thats why it turns you off, try some new things...watch movies, new positions, more romantic moments...because if thats not the case then maybe you love them but your not in love. Believe me there is a difference...well good lucka dn I hope you figure things out before going in to a marriage that will end quickly without passion...
2006-09-06 05:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an open discussion about what you like or don't like, or you could see a sex therapist, otherwise you may as well just call off the engagement. Unfortunately sexual chemistry is just as important as the love side of it and if it is not there you are headed for an incomplete marriage.
2006-09-06 05:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a tactful way to bring up the topic, and I guarantee she will surprise you. Chances are that if you are bored, she is too. I can tell you from experience that I wish my husband would tell me what it is he wants when it comes to sex. There are things that you can enjoy in the company of one another that are incredibly sexy...but you both need to feel comfortable, and that takes a lot of trust and a feeling of security. If the problem is her physical appearance, then you need to decide how important that is to you. If you are not at all physically attracted to her because of her body, then I suggest you do some soul searching about whether it's fair to let her commit her life to you. I bet she deserves a husband who thinks she is beautiful inside and out.
2006-09-06 05:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by morecowbelljim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if u love her, and the problem is that you are bored-4 lack of a better word-with her, try suggesting some games or activities that will spice up ur sex life. Toys r great 2!! u must both be open-minded, though or it won't work. If it doesn't, u should end it.
good luck!!
2006-09-06 05:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by pooda_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm!!! i think the fact she does not turn you on may be that you do not turn her on as well thats why she is laid back.i feel again it could be that you guys dont talk about how to improve you bedroom affairs.
there is no harm in takin about it and for two years!!! its too long to be left.... give it a go and talk about it.
2006-09-06 05:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by louryuzzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did she become your fiance,either this problem was always there, and you just dismiss it, maybe your not in love with here anymore.
did she ever turn you on
2006-09-06 05:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by tommytwotone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being modest and respectful to you. Once in the bedroom it is most likely you will see a different shape.Have you had no physical relation or contact so far?Try to talk to about sex and get her feedback.
2006-09-06 05:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋