My husband and I got married in February. We just moved into a new home out of our old state. Everything was fine. All of a sudden, he has stopped having sex with me and changed the passcode to his cellphone voicemail. My first thought was that he was cheating. But the only time he is even around another woman is a waitress when he stops to eat on his lunch break (he is in construction). I am freaking out. I don't know what is going on! I have been vomiting for 3 days from worrying. What set me off getting physically ill was that he started completely avoiding me. He stays in another room while I am awake or else he will just go to bed at 6:30 pm. Normally, he will hug me every night for a while before we go to sleep. Now when I come in there, he stays on his side of the bed. This has been going on for a week total.
I just don't know how he would have time to cheat. When? He goes to work and comes straight home.
2006-09-06 05:13:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When my husband and I first moved to a new town we went through the same thing....right down to me vomitting like you are. For us it was just the stress of the move and being in a totally new situation. His cellphone password he changed b/c he forgot the original (again stress messed with him) and had to have it reset. I finally sat him down and demanded to know what was up. He gave me the new password with no hesitation and told me everything that was going on. My point in telling you all this is that there can be other reasons than him cheating. Just talk to him and ask what's going on. Good luck!
2006-09-06 05:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is acting different. Why don't you just straight out ask him? It is not fair to you that he is treating you like this. Another idea might be to wear a disguise and sit in the resturant before he gets there. Maybe you can observe the interaction that is going on. Just wear a baseball hat and sit in the back. Men sleep with waitresses, sorry to let you know. I worked in a resturant for a long time and this nasty waitress was sleeping with this man. His son is very famous, and he is married. But she was meeting him and sleeping with him all the time. Also a manager would leave the resturant during the day for an hour or less and come back with a different hair do, if that gives you any clue as to the type of people that I worked with. Be careful. I feel so bad for you! Get strong and stand up for yourself!
2006-09-06 12:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has already done something to be ashamed of and doesn't know what to do about it. If he wanted to cheat he would. He could take off a day of work. Vacation days, sick days. You are the one who knows him best. Is he the cheating type? Changing the passcode on his voicemail is a bad sign in my book. Ask him why he changed it? Ask him if you can listen to it. There should be nothing to hide unless there is something to hide. If his answer is there is nothing to worry about your being paranoid and won't let you listen to his voicemail I would worry a little more. Ask him why he has been distant. Tell him your concerns. You need to talk. It may just be the stress of the move is getting to him. Good Luck.
2006-09-06 12:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him on the situation, Guys go through alot of changes just like women do, but women handle things better. Has he had a recent check up with the doctor? Maybe the doctor told him something he didn't want to hear.
Other than that, do not EVER think a man has no time to cheat on you. If they want to, it will happen. You are right to be worried. But I would not jump to the conclusion that he IS cheating. Talk to him. There may be something else going on that he may not feel confortable talking to you about unless you bring it up.
I hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-09-06 12:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Neicy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. Trust me they can find the time. My EX husband had an affair for 3 years and I never thought he had the time but he did it on his lunch hour and when he was suppose to be at the dentist office and all other kinds of things. Keep digging or follow him one day. You will see where he finds the time
2006-09-06 12:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk, don't let the time pass by; you have to find out now, imagine you got married on February and if he is cheating on you now, what can you expect in the future. he may be tired to have sex, but how about everything else, the hug, the kiss, the talk???? dont let him do this to you. You have to value yourself and be strong, dont let the love you feel for him dominate you.
2006-09-06 12:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like ur husbnd is goin thru some prblm...Just dont just to no bad conclusion. It could be stress from work. Just sit a talk to him, ask him nicely wots bothering him....let him know that u r at his side to help in anyway.
He will come around dont worry.......
Are u sure u r not pregnant? better have urself checked out by a dr.
Good luck!
2006-09-06 12:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman knows if her husband is cheating... whether she wants to admit it to herself or not. My suggestion is to talk to him. There's nothing like getting the real story from the source.
2006-09-06 12:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and let hom know what your feelings are. There may be something wrong mentally or physically. If you know that he is not cheating the problem is deeper.
2006-09-06 12:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you're freaked. That's not normal. You have to confront him on this, and if he doesn't fess up to what's going on, get out fast. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment. If you keep some dignity he'll value you more.
2006-09-06 12:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋