what can parents do to enable kids to be independent?

Answer 1

Put their asss out when old enough! Make them accountable for their own belongings, make sure they have chores to do OUTSIDE of their bedrooms. Don't be afraid to tell them NO!

Answer 2

give them responsiablity like maybe a bill or something... tell them they have to earn the money for it either with you or a real job and they have to take care of it!
make it be like a cable bill or phone bill something that when they don't pay it it's gone! maybe you can even work something out with a company saying this is what your doing and if you will send the money to them but look for a double payment if not recieved then you can unplug it too!
Manly disapline will help independences!
however leaving all the time works too! make your kid cook it's own food do there own laundry clean the house! ect... just don't be there for them when they want you too.. don't be mean and wait for the biggg issue just on the little stuff you better be by there side if something big comes up unless they are past that stage!
see it's hard to judge i'm not sure how old your kids are!
i'm independent but my mom just wasn't there when i got home she was busy playing cards with her friends so i did what i wanted to do... lucky for her i had a heart and cared about her not to get into trouble! but i guess i realized that early in life not to screw up and i want to say i did it myself!
Mad luv

Answer 3

It's refreshing to see a question like this! Given that your kids are young, it will be easy to instill independence in them. I think by letting kids get involved in everyday life helps enable them to be more independent. If you're washing clothes, for example, and they ask to help, by all means let them help! If you're cooking and they want to help, let them! Cleaning up? Same thing. I use to take my 4-5 yr. old to the post office and let him stand in line and wait his turn to buy a postage stamp. That meant he had to wait, he had to ask for what he wanted, and he had to make contact with another person. I waited on the side and watched and he did well. By the time he was 6, he could go inside alone and purchase a postage stamp. I guess we can learn alot from animals, like birds. They teach their young the basics then push them out to fly on their own. Godblessya!

Answer 4

It depends on the age of the children.... Younger children cant handle the same responsibilities as older children obviously...

But even a two year old can be taught how to pick up their own toys, and do some things for themselves...

My daughter is 9 so it is easy for me, I make her do a lot of things for herself, and she has certain chores outside of cleaning her room, and taking care of HER horse....

The object (in my opinion-from my own experience) is to start them as young as 2 with small stuff, and increase as they get older.... allowances are great once they are out of the toddler stage, it also helps them to learn how to be responsible with their money... But do not connect allowances with chores... eventually they will get to the point to where they dont care and then chores dont get done...
Have them save their allowance for those little impulse things they want, and if they dont have the money for it, dont buy it for them..... They learn to save their money that way..... Dont give in just b/c they whine and cry about it either... I found out BIG MISTAKE....

Just some ideas from my own experiences, they may or may not work.... Every child is different, so every circumstance is different!!!!

Hope it helps.... Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Begin when they are young. Teach them how to use the washer and dryer, how to sew on a button and fix and hem and how to cook simple meals, etc. Teach them the value of money. Open a savings account for them and let them save for something they want. Take them shopping with you and explain how to spot a good value. When they get older you can give them a secured credit card so they can learn how to handle money. The idea is to gradually get them ready to live independently.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what age-group you're talking about, but my answer assumes a teenaged child. However, there's many things in there that would be good to start from a young age, such as teaching them how to cook!

Encourage them to take a part-time job! It worked with me, as although I didn't like the parental nagging, I did enjoy having money of my own to spend.

Teach them skills that will help them in life:
* Basic cookery, from vegetable prep to meals, as it's much easier to eat healthily when one has cooking skills.
* How to launder clothes, and some basic sewing skills.
* How to vacuum, polish etc.
* Simple gardening if they enjoy it.
* Encourage them to cycle (safely). It's cheap and it's easy. Cars are a nice thing but also expensive for a young person to run.
* Let them experience the consequences of their own actions. For example, if they experiment with alcohol, let them work out for themselves what a hangover feels like. If they run out of money through spending too much, let them be broke until they've gone out and earned some.
* Offer to let them have parties or sleepovers with friends, but they have to clean up the house afterwards.

Answer 7

The only way to LEARN how to be independent, is to give them the opportunity to do some problem solving. It's as simple as household chores, and responsibility.
Dont GIVE them e/thing. And dont DO e/thing for them.

Answer 8

If there over 18,put them out.Let them live on there own,help them when they need you and be there for them,responsibility or more of it is what they need.Now if there under 18 but over 12,let them begin to wash there own clothes,fix their own lunch and sometimes breakfast.Give them chores around the house from cutting the grass to raking leaves,cleaning the house,washing dishes,taking out the trash.That's what i do and it works for me.But don't over do it.

Answer 9

Give them responsibilities. Chores and tasks that are age appropriate. Buy them an alarm clock.

Answer 10

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